Race relations at your kids school
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Anonymous
| interested in hearing from parents of white, black and brown kids. What do you think of the social scene at your kids' school with regards to race. It seems we are well past the notion that people are colorblind, or that that is even a good thing to aspire to. But how are we recognizing different races? Are your kids friendly with people of other races and has this been the case into high school? What about dating? Do you think all are perceived as equals? Or do you think we still have a lot of work to do? I truly believe most of us of all races can get behind Black Lives Matter. But I wonder if this is in practice as well as in theory. |
Anonymous
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DC is awesome. When we were there, our DC was friends with black, Jewish, Asian, Hispanic, international, American, etc. Now that we are in SF Bay area which is supposedly diverse too, I'm shocked at the ignorance -- I have personally had multiple borderline racist (maybe just stupid) comments made directly to me without any shame. We live in a suburb so it is predominantly white but it really is shameful.
I really miss NW DC, especially Columbia Heights and Fed Gov which was a diverse place to work for me. |
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Anonymous
| I agree that much of DC is great but as a POC in a white neighborhood I do see subtle bias , even among those shouting BLM. I just wonder if we will ever be post racist. |
Anonymous
The perception is that the social gulf at DD’s school is based on SES not race, but virtually all the poor kids are black or brown. Of the MC kids who are black and brown, the community tends to assume they are poor until proven otherwise. And that the brown kids are all immigrants. DD looks racially ambiguous and had a really weird first month of school in 6th grade. We’ve always had a side network of friends outside of the school and that became a really vital detox. She’s headed to a majority minority HS and I think it will be a better experience socially. Due to the nature of the programs offered, nearly all of the white or Asian students who attend are doing so by choice rather than it being their neighborhood school. And there’s a sizable black MC population attending. Hopefully that cuts down on some black = poor stereotyping by students and staff. |
Anonymous
| My DC is a POC and attends Deal. She attended a JKLM elementary. I have to say I'm disappointed that even after moving to a more diverse school all her new friends are white (maybe because all of her elementary school friends were white?). |
Anonymous
That's interesting. Is it possible to just be happy she has friends? |
Anonymous
. Many people of color feel the need to have some role models who look like them. I do think this is important given that we have have biases and if a POC has only white friendships those biases may be reflected back. I wish it were as simple as just having friends but that assumes no prejudice, overt or subconscious |
Anonymous
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My son is in 4th grade and come to think of it, his two best friends are white (he is too).
Otherwise it’s a pretty diverse school and I Haven’t noticed any racial divide. It’s more about moms who know each other and are in the know re:‘school gossip vs all others 
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Anonymous
| Decent diversity but the social scene remains somewhat segregated. |
Anonymous
| I don't see any problems among the kids so far (5th grade now), but the PTA is racist as hell. |
Anonymous
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Our HS is very diverse but segregated. Mostly segregated by interests but interests seem to be racially segregated.
Big racial devise between everybody and black kids that are, for example, football players. But seem like soccer is diverse. Lax bro’s aren’t, baseball is the same. |
Anonymous
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I tried talking to my teen son about what's happening right now and he said to me "mom, no offense, I get it, but you know....that's just old people's problem. We don't care if our friends are white, black or brown....we're just friends"
At home, we talk about education and values not color... |
Anonymous
^ he considers anyone 40 and above old, by the way. 
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Anonymous
| It's fine |