Race relations at your kids school

[Anonymous]

Perfect harmony.

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People commune with their own kind. In all cases everywhere in nature. It can't be helped.

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Anonymous wrote:My DC is a POC and attends Deal. She attended a JKLM elementary. I have to say I'm disappointed that even after moving to a more diverse school all her new friends are white (maybe because all of her elementary school friends were white?).

Deal is 45% white 35% black 20% hispanic. Many different classes--from homeless (a few) to working class to the kids of law partners and dual physician families. As a fed/nurse family I feel like we're very much at the 50% of income.

It's a pretty awesome mixture that isn't found many places. however, I would agree that the kids mostly socialize along race lines. My 7th grade white son has 2 good friends who are black--one he met during elementary and one at Deal.
The positive thing is that the kids of all colors are working shoulder to shoulder together on school projects, etc. It's probably as good as it gets. People tend to gravitate towards people like them. it's fascinating.

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Anonymous wrote:I tried talking to my teen son about what's happening right now and he said to me "mom, no offense, I get it, but you know....that's just old people's problem. We don't care if our friends are white, black or brown....we're just friends"

At home, we talk about education and values not color...

He may have a diverse friend group, which is wonderful, but he is naive or obtuse about “young” people in general. Social self-segregation remains very common.

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Anonymous wrote:People commune with their own kind. In all cases everywhere in nature. It can't be helped.

This is the case at my kids’ school. Everyone seems to get along and I haven’t heard of any issues. But Indian children stick with Indian children, Chinese with Chinese, Korean with Korean, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DC is a POC and attends Deal. She attended a JKLM elementary. I have to say I'm disappointed that even after moving to a more diverse school all her new friends are white (maybe because all of her elementary school friends were white?).

That's interesting. Is it possible to just be happy she has friends? [/quote

To PP and others - I'm the poster from above and nope, I don't think it's enough to just have friends. The lack of positive interaction between people of different backgrounds causes a lot of problems in our country. I don't want my DC to center her life around a norm of whiteness. I want her to care about the different experiences people go through and to share in them. Yes, it's the easiest thing, the most comfortable thing to associate with those the most similar to us. And I worry that she is the most comfortable around white people and not even her own racial/ethnic group. Ideally I think we would have friends who are similar and friends who are different on many dimensions.

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In a certain public school in Northern Virginia, which most people on DCUM consider to be a very wealthy area, there was a recent racist incident involving students of said school. A student posted something racist, and some of the parents came forward to defend the racist kid - even though there is evidence that this kid perpetuated a racist group text. Sad.

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I would agree that the kids mostly socialize along race lines

The Koreans self segregate. They are a large minority group at our public HS. All the minority group self segregate. The students mixed much more in the early grades, the most in elementary school. It's like they didn't even see race in elementary school. It certainly didn't matter. As teenagers there is more self segregating by minorities. I think it's self discovery. Many of the minority groups started digging deeper into their heritage. The Korean boys started bowing to each other in high school. Both my kids (we are white) have close minority friends, but if felt like the minority identity mattered less in the earlier grades.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DC is a POC and attends Deal. She attended a JKLM elementary. I have to say I'm disappointed that even after moving to a more diverse school all her new friends are white (maybe because all of her elementary school friends were white?).

Deal is 45% white 35% black 20% hispanic. Many different classes--from homeless (a few) to working class to the kids of law partners and dual physician families. As a fed/nurse family I feel like we're very much at the 50% of income.

It's a pretty awesome mixture that isn't found many places. however, I would agree that the kids mostly socialize along race lines. My 7th grade white son has 2 good friends who are black--one he met during elementary and one at Deal.
The positive thing is that the kids of all colors are working shoulder to shoulder together on school projects, etc. It's probably as good as it gets. People tend to gravitate towards people like them. it's fascinating.

Where your Asian people at? That’s 100% right there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DC is a POC and attends Deal. She attended a JKLM elementary. I have to say I'm disappointed that even after moving to a more diverse school all her new friends are white (maybe because all of her elementary school friends were white?).

Deal is 45% white 35% black 20% hispanic. Many different classes--from homeless (a few) to working class to the kids of law partners and dual physician families. As a fed/nurse family I feel like we're very much at the 50% of income.

It's a pretty awesome mixture that isn't found many places. however, I would agree that the kids mostly socialize along race lines. My 7th grade white son has 2 good friends who are black--one he met during elementary and one at Deal.
The positive thing is that the kids of all colors are working shoulder to shoulder together on school projects, etc. It's probably as good as it gets. People tend to gravitate towards people like them. it's fascinating.

Where your Asian people at? That’s 100% right there.

they're in suburbia. Very few asians in DC proper.

[Anonymous]

Many of us have a great deal of daily experience with minorities -- and they aren't black.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DC is a POC and attends Deal. She attended a JKLM elementary. I have to say I'm disappointed that even after moving to a more diverse school all her new friends are white (maybe because all of her elementary school friends were white?).

Deal is 45% white 35% black 20% hispanic. Many different classes--from homeless (a few) to working class to the kids of law partners and dual physician families. As a fed/nurse family I feel like we're very much at the 50% of income.

It's a pretty awesome mixture that isn't found many places. however, I would agree that the kids mostly socialize along race lines. My 7th grade white son has 2 good friends who are black--one he met during elementary and one at Deal.
The positive thing is that the kids of all colors are working shoulder to shoulder together on school projects, etc. It's probably as good as it gets. People tend to gravitate towards people like them. it's fascinating.

Where your Asian people at? That’s 100% right there.

they're in suburbia. Very few asians in DC proper.

Yup, very few Asians in DC. They do make up a significant enough portion at a couple DCPS elementary schools near Chinatown (Thomson and Seaton).

[Anonymous]

Rainbows and unicorns here in Clarksburg. I love it!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DC is a POC and attends Deal. She attended a JKLM elementary. I have to say I'm disappointed that even after moving to a more diverse school all her new friends are white (maybe because all of her elementary school friends were white?).

That's interesting. Is it possible to just be happy she has friends?

My daughter is white Jewish and when we were at sela, every single one of her friends was black and not Jewish. I thought it was awesome that she didn’t have a single Jewish friend since DH had only Jewish friends and says the strangest things because he never knew anyone celebrating Christmas or Easter - things like “everyone knows what matzo ball soup is?” Humm, no that is just because you only hung out with people who did! Maybe it is influenced by your own childhood?

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Anonymous wrote:

I would agree that the kids mostly socialize along race lines

The Koreans self segregate. They are a large minority group at our public HS. All the minority group self segregate. The students mixed much more in the early grades, the most in elementary school. It's like they didn't even see race in elementary school. It certainly didn't matter. As teenagers there is more self segregating by minorities. I think it's self discovery. Many of the minority groups started digging deeper into their heritage. The Korean boys started bowing to each other in high school. Both my kids (we are white) have close minority friends, but if felt like the minority identity mattered less in the earlier grades.

Not true EOTP. I had kids at CMI, Powell, Basis, Latin and never saw this.