How many marriages are falling apart during covid
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Anonymous
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The first couple months were bliss. First month sex multiple times/week, which was a huge increase for us because DH travelled weekly.
Second month less sex, but still a lot of hugging, connecting, making nice dinners for each other, etc. Third month things literally imploded and I have a scheduled consultation with a divorce attorney. |
Anonymous
| What changed? |
Anonymous
From what I can tell, nothing except that we both feel stuck in the house together, as we're taking covid seriously. |
Anonymous
| If one month of being unhappy leads you to consult a divorce attorney then whoa |
Anonymous
| What the heck happened?? Something is really off if you went from bliss in month one to consulting with a divorce attorney two months later. |
Anonymous
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This reads really trollish, and I've never called that on anyone before. It's just seems a tad over the top to go from bliss to divorce.
My DH frustrates me. We definitely do better when we're busy and engaged outside of the house. He's a natural pessimist and I'm a natural optimist, and there have been days when I think we are not compatible for the long term. But by long term I mean I seriously wonder if we'll grow old together - I can't imagine being retired with him. But this is something I've thought in the past, too. So it's not like it came on all of a sudden. I have to believe something else is going on. |
Anonymous
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I wish I was trolling but I'm not. Yes, we've had our ups and downs, but I genuinely imagined us growing old together.
Before the last argument, I was literally talking to him about our plans for what we should do/ where we should move after our house is paid off. |
Anonymous
That still sounds like normal, but heightened, ups and downs in heightened circumstances (pandemic). I wouldn't rush to the divorce lawyers just yet. --Signed, Divorced person |
Anonymous
+1 Sounds like a big fight that OP didn't realize was brewing so it caught her off-guard. If it didn't involve violence or threats or something similarly game-changing I don't think one big fight in a period of sustained highs is divorce-worthy. |
Anonymous
| I think you're required to be unhappy for at least a year before you head to the attorney. Seriously, every couple has ups and downs and these phases could last months or longer. You should talk to a therapist before you just bail on a marriage because you had a rough few weeks. |
Anonymous
Taking Covid seriously does not mean you cannot leave the house. Take a walk, Ride your bike, go to the grocery store with a mask. |
Anonymous
| How on earth did you go from constant sex to divorce in a matter of weeks? Is there abuse? Infidelity? |
Anonymous
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Ugh. Mine is. Similar story. First month seemed great- more help with the kids Bc he was working from home, more time for leisure.. Second month I started to piece together some behaviors that were happening more constantly that were driving me nuts and I started reflecting on our nine year marriage. Third month we are talking divorce.
Good times. |
Anonymous
| If you can’t last three months together, no way you are going to last 30+ years. I guess it’s better to cut loss and move on. Don’t get remarried though. |
Anonymous
+1 Yes. Wtf? |