| If you were doing ok pre covid why wouldn’t you try marriage counseling first? |
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Not mine but my neighbor. They just moved into their custom built house, living in it for maybe 6 months. Night before last 5 police cars, a sheriff deputy showed up. Took the husband and then the wife left for the night. They have one child. Yesterday she came home and packed up her things. Whatever it is going on must have been bad because a cop was there while she got her things.
I felt sadness. We have to try and love each other. We have to have someone to help get through all this mess. My husband lost his job after working for the same company for 37 years. It was a shocking blow but we are in together forever. Yes he gets on my nerves and I get on his but we are there for each other. Loyalty and love will heal anything. |
It sounds like her husband was abusive. I don't think you can blame lack of love or Covid. Speaking from experience, here. |
Cheating. Infidelity discovered most likely...and the outcome is what you saw. A lot of affairs are being discovered during the pandemic. Infidelity discovery is brutal and not taken well. A lot of people are drinking more too. |
Do you live in Maryland? |
I would not assume the wife is innocent. Assume nothing. |
Why does this matter? Seriously curious for a personal reason, I'm going thru something similar to what's described in OP. |
| I know 1 couple that’s divorcing after Covid. |
| About a month ago, after a big fight, my wife told me that she wanted to separate. I told her that she needs to move out then. She refused and we settled on, not separating but having major issues. I am not for making major life decisions during a lock down. Things have settled down and we are no longer in crisis mode, but we'll have to circle back to the topic at some point. We have been openly having issues for about a year. |
Wondering if it is why the cop cars were on my street in Georgetown Village. |
I’m having the same reaction. Pre-pandemic, did you spend very little time together, due to his traveling? Are you newlyweds who haven’t learned to communicate well but managed in the past because he was never around? Going from bliss to divorce so quickly is off — to be blunt, it sounds quite immature...or maybe there’s backstory you’ve left out. |
How big is house? Do you have kids? How old? I mean we are quarantined as well but dh office in basement and I’m on bedroom level in guest room ( now office) We both work all day. Sometimes will walk the dog at lunch together. Our DC in HS and they do their school work in bedroom and family room. At night, one of us or DC cooks dinner but we don’t always eat as family dinner as DC sleep later, eat lunch later, etc. so we all have some time together but not always as a group or pair. Working well. Everyone should have their own space for much of the day and then a little time each day to talk, engage but not 24-7. I do think you need to be honest with yourselves. Perhaps both feeling unhappy, bored, life passing you by before this? Got caught off guard like we all did and so hunkered down to ride it now ( felt like a team) and now surfacing that maybe not connected like one of you thought you were? It does not sound normal to say you were happy and now one month of unhappiness you are ready to divorce. |
Maybe it’s the guy that found out his wife was bringing men into their home to screw while he was at work. |
| What if the teen kid left school early?! Hi Mom ! |