When is your nanny coming back?

[Anonymous]

Or has that happened already? Or maybe she never left?

Curious about others’ choices. No judgement.

We have two stable jobs but mine is very competitive. Nanny has been out since mid March. We are still paying her. Kids 4 and 7, older with special needs that require a lot of supervision so right now we are both working maybe 3/4 each in shifts. Tired and wondering if we are going to be doing this for months if we should just bite the bullet now. We were hoping to wait until Phase I but between the long delay and the fact that we expect a second wave not seeing the right path anymore.

We both are able to work from home and nanny has a family but no specific risk factors and we trust her judgement.

[Anonymous]

Never left. Roommates went home to quarantine with family, DH offered to drive nanny back and forth to avoid Uber or mass transit. So nanny has been here full time while DH and I work from home.

[Anonymous]

I’d totally bring her back.

[Anonymous]

Now if she is social distancing. If not, let her go. You have always been able to have a nanny come so I don't get paying her this long and not having her work.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny has been coming the whole time, thank heavens. She and her family have been social distancing as have we and we all agreed at the outset to keep that one aspect of normalcy for all of us in this whole thing. No regrets and given you know and trust your nanny, OP, I'd bring her back immediately if she's willing to come if I were you!

[Anonymous]

We brought our nanny back two days a week about three weeks ago and we are now at 3 days per week. I can see us going full time in another week.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how much you trust your nanny. I’ve kept my nanny on all this while after having frank conversations with her about social distancing. My friends nanny lied to her about attending a funeral, came to her home while sick with symptoms, and infected her entire family including her babies with covid.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny never left. She lives alone and only sees us and we only see her. We feel enormously fortunate and love her so much!

[Anonymous]

We have an au pair so she never left!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We brought our nanny back two days a week about three weeks ago and we are now at 3 days per week. I can see us going full time in another week.

This makes no sense.

You’re getting the same exposure 3 days a week or 5 days a week. If she’s exposed—you’re exposed. Either do it all the way or nothing. There is zero benefit to having a nanny for half the time. And if you’re doing it to save money, it’s very likely the nanny is working gig jobs like instacart or Uber to make ends meet — in which case you’re infinitely increasing your risk for very little benefit.

[Anonymous]

Wow OP -
You have been paying your Nanny over two months for nothing!

That is more than kind of you!

It may be more difficult for her to resume working again for money when she got it free for almost 3 months.
Just be prepared.

[Anonymous]

Hi this is OP. Our nanny has been doing a lot from her house - regularly face timing, finding activities for the kids etc. we can afford to pay our nanny and she has been with us for 5+ years.

I recognize it has been a while.

That said I am not looking for advice - plenty of thst to go around. I was looking for a survey of what other people have actually done. Please - posts from other people with nannies and their experiences. As I said I am not looking to judge just to understand the spectrum better of what might be done. Thank you!
No judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny never left. She lives alone and only sees us and we only see her. We feel enormously fortunate and love her so much!

Exactly the same situation. Our nanny has continued to work and we all socially isolate. We could not have made it without her.

[Anonymous]

I am a Nanny and I never left. I live alone and my current family is just seeing me. So am I
I do grocery shopping on Fridays after work. I don't leave my apartment until Monday when I come back to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP -
You have been paying your Nanny over two months for nothing!

That is more than kind of you!

It may be more difficult for her to resume working again for money when she got it free for almost 3 months.
Just be prepared.

+1. Same with cleaning people who have been staying home and still getting paid. I would just say I don't feel ready and I need more time, and you'll still continue to pay me. Free vacation!