Friend’s Husband

[Anonymous]

My neighborhood is very close. Most of us are around the same age and are great friends. We were all hanging out and two people decided to go home. One of my neighbors walked one person back while I walked the other one home. When I was walking back to the house we were hanging out at it, the other neighbor caught up to me and we walked back up to his house together. Everyone else was still inside playing games and having fun. About a month ago, I broke with my boyfriend, which is friends with this neighbor. He said let’s hang out here for a sec and he popped his tailgate and we sat on opposite ends. We were talking about the break up just briefly. I asked if he was ok because I was a little confused why he wanted to stay outside. He then grabbed my upper thigh and began leaning in. I immediately pushed him away and told him not to make that mistake. I started talking about how much I love his wife and how I would never do that to anyone. I tried to change the subject after that because it was so awful. As I got off and headed back in the house, he told me thank you for stopping him. I’m good friends with his wife and I’m not sure if I should tell her about this but I don’t want to feel like I’m protecting him either. I just wish I can go on pretending like this never happened. He text me multiple times this morning and throughout the day. He didn’t acknowledge what happened but I feel like he’s trying to act like he doesn’t remember because he had been drinking. But I know he remembers because he never texts me. I think he’s trying to gauge If I’m upset and going to tell his wife. When I was still asleep, he blew up my phone until he got a response. I just fear that if I tell her, he will try to twist the story. And if I don’t tell her, then it looks like I have something to hide. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

Tell him that you've just discovered this thing called "social distancing", and have decided to give it a try.

[Anonymous]

I'm so bothered by the fact that none of you are social distancing that I can't even get to the subject of your post. It sounds like this whole group sucks, given the disregard you all have for social distancing and stay at home orders.

[Anonymous]

Oh man, that’s hard. I don’t think I would tell - I’d pretend it never happened. I wouldn’t want to be in the middle of their relationship drama - I’d exit stage left. I’d be cordial in public but make sure I’m never alone with him again.

[Anonymous]

Be extra nice to his wife, and give him a wide berth. Do not respond to his texts or emails. Do not be seen together.

[Anonymous]

I'd act like I was sick and give them all something to think about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so bothered by the fact that none of you are social distancing that I can't even get to the subject of your post. It sounds like this whole group sucks, given the disregard you all have for social distancing and stay at home orders.

I’m kind of not surprised that people who don’t give a sh*t about anyone else would also be game for cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh man, that’s hard. I don’t think I would tell - I’d pretend it never happened. I wouldn’t want to be in the middle of their relationship drama - I’d exit stage left. I’d be cordial in public but make sure I’m never alone with him again.

This. Nothing happened, no good will come of saying anything. Let it go and stay away from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so bothered by the fact that none of you are social distancing that I can't even get to the subject of your post. It sounds like this whole group sucks, given the disregard you all have for social distancing and stay at home orders.

+1 all I can do is wonder if OP is writing from a parallel universe where there is no pandemic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd act like I was sick and give them all something to think about.

Ha! Yea, come up with a fever and a dry cough and just stay home for a couple of weeks.

[Anonymous]

Your friendship is over no matter what you decide to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh man, that’s hard. I don’t think I would tell - I’d pretend it never happened. I wouldn’t want to be in the middle of their relationship drama - I’d exit stage left. I’d be cordial in public but make sure I’m never alone with him again.

This. I wouldn't say anything b/c nothing happened.

And rest assured, if you do *try* to tell her, he will weasel out of it like "what?...omg no! Honey, I don't know what she *thinks* I was doing but she was all weepy about the breakup and I felt bad for her listened to her go on and on about it and then I tried to give her a hug and she freaked out! I'm actually embarrassed for her that she thinks I was coming onto her."

And then the wife will be awkward around you and you will be known in their circle as the girl who spreads rumors about her husband for "no reason."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My neighborhood is very close. Most of us are around the same age and are great friends. We were all hanging out and two people decided to go home. One of my neighbors walked one person back while I walked the other one home. When I was walking back to the house we were hanging out at it, the other neighbor caught up to me and we walked back up to his house together. Everyone else was still inside playing games and having fun. About a month ago, I broke with my boyfriend, which is friends with this neighbor. He said let’s hang out here for a sec and he popped his tailgate and we sat on opposite ends. We were talking about the break up just briefly. I asked if he was ok because I was a little confused why he wanted to stay outside. He then grabbed my upper thigh and began leaning in. I immediately pushed him away and told him not to make that mistake. I started talking about how much I love his wife and how I would never do that to anyone. I tried to change the subject after that because it was so awful. As I got off and headed back in the house, he told me thank you for stopping him. I’m good friends with his wife and I’m not sure if I should tell her about this but I don’t want to feel like I’m protecting him either. I just wish I can go on pretending like this never happened. He text me multiple times this morning and throughout the day. He didn’t acknowledge what happened but I feel like he’s trying to act like he doesn’t remember because he had been drinking. But I know he remembers because he never texts me. I think he’s trying to gauge If I’m upset and going to tell his wife. When I was still asleep, he blew up my phone until he got a response. I just fear that if I tell her, he will try to twist the story. And if I don’t tell her, then it looks like I have something to hide. Any advice?

I started reading and immediately got confused - why do people have to walk each other home in a neighborhood?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My neighborhood is very close. Most of us are around the same age and are great friends. We were all hanging out and two people decided to go home. One of my neighbors walked one person back while I walked the other one home. When I was walking back to the house we were hanging out at it, the other neighbor caught up to me and we walked back up to his house together. Everyone else was still inside playing games and having fun. About a month ago, I broke with my boyfriend, which is friends with this neighbor. He said let’s hang out here for a sec and he popped his tailgate and we sat on opposite ends. We were talking about the break up just briefly. I asked if he was ok because I was a little confused why he wanted to stay outside. He then grabbed my upper thigh and began leaning in. I immediately pushed him away and told him not to make that mistake. I started talking about how much I love his wife and how I would never do that to anyone. I tried to change the subject after that because it was so awful. As I got off and headed back in the house, he told me thank you for stopping him. I’m good friends with his wife and I’m not sure if I should tell her about this but I don’t want to feel like I’m protecting him either. I just wish I can go on pretending like this never happened. He text me multiple times this morning and throughout the day. He didn’t acknowledge what happened but I feel like he’s trying to act like he doesn’t remember because he had been drinking. But I know he remembers because he never texts me. I think he’s trying to gauge If I’m upset and going to tell his wife. When I was still asleep, he blew up my phone until he got a response. I just fear that if I tell her, he will try to twist the story. And if I don’t tell her, then it looks like I have something to hide. Any advice?

I started reading and immediately got confused - why do people have to walk each other home in a neighborhood?

Because the neighborhood is very close. Most of them are around the same age and are great friends.

[Anonymous]

Why would a woman be walking someone home, then walking back by herself? And why are these people still partying together?