Teenage girlfriend

[Anonymous]

16yo DS has a gf. Seemingly nice girl but there is a LOT of her this quarantine. She is constantly texting him. Calling him. If we are going outside, she tries to latch on and talks about social distancing fall on deaf ears. DH is a cancer survivor so we're extra vigilant about his healthcare and not seeing any outsiders. He is very vulnerable. We explained it to the girl but it's like she doesn't care. Even DS is starting to get pissed at her, she is so clingy.

Do I contact her parents? Maybe they can keep her busy or set up some rules as to when she can call? When she is supposed to be in online class, she calls him. It's disturbing.

[Anonymous]

What you need to do is talk to your son about healthy relationships and how the behavior she is showing isn't healthy or respectful. He needs to learn about what is respectful and healthy in how he should be treated by a girlfriend and this isn't it.

I would focus on him and getting him out of this and helping him learn how to choose better next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16yo DS has a gf. Seemingly nice girl but there is a LOT of her this quarantine. She is constantly texting him. Calling him. If we are going outside, she tries to latch on and talks about social distancing fall on deaf ears. DH is a cancer survivor so we're extra vigilant about his healthcare and not seeing any outsiders. He is very vulnerable. We explained it to the girl but it's like she doesn't care. Even DS is starting to get pissed at her, she is so clingy.

Do I contact her parents? Maybe they can keep her busy or set up some rules as to when she can call? When she is supposed to be in online class, she calls him. It's disturbing.

Your son is 16, not six. He needs to tell her, not you!

[Anonymous]

It is pretty normal for 16 year olds who are dating to call and text each other a lot even under pre-pandemic circumstances. I'm not sure why you find it "disturbing."

If your son is annoyed and coming to the realization that he's not that into her after all, then he can tell her to back off or he can break up with her. Do not call her parents - what the heck?

There is no reason for you to be involved at all.

[Anonymous]

Your son is not allowed to tell her when you're going out, duh.
Other than that, you can offer general advice, but he can deal, right?

[Anonymous]

Congratulations OP you're in training to be one of the nasty MILs discussed on this board. Think of yourself as in the embryonic stages yet earning a solid A+ for your work so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations OP you're in training to be one of the nasty MILs discussed on this board. Think of yourself as in the embryonic stages yet earning a solid A+ for your work so far.

Exactly. Her boy is her prince. The other person must be the problem, not her little boy.

[Anonymous]

OP, this involves the health of your husband. If he doesn't make contact with her parents, you should.

[Anonymous]

Why isn't mamma telling her son to disengage with the girl?

[Anonymous]

Why are people so nasty on this board?
My son had a clingy girlfriend when he was 17. She would text for hours even when she knew he was busy studying for exams. I did not interfere and a few months into the relationship she cut herself because she felt “neglected”.
Her parents said I should have intervened and told them earlier about her being so obsessed with my son. Apparently they had no idea that he even existed in her life.
OP, if you feel it’s way too much, please tell her parents as they are still responsible for their minor daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations OP you're in training to be one of the nasty MILs discussed on this board. Think of yourself as in the embryonic stages yet earning a solid A+ for your work so far.

Exactly. Her boy is her prince. The other person must be the problem, not her little boy.

hahaha +1

[Anonymous]

You’re going to call the mother of a SIXTEEN year old girl? Really OP? Go for it and see how much sh*t your little angel of a son gets next school year when she tells all her friends what a lunatic her EX bfs mom was.

[Anonymous]

Op, as you know from DCUM - many on here have a girls / women can do no wrong attitude. If it is a boyfriend being clingy and disrupting online classes and constantly calling and testing - he will be deemed controlling and abusive and evil. But a girl doing it- perfectly fine. Many on here believe that girls / women can treat boys / men any way they want and that boys/men deserve to be abused, controlled and mistreated. Those are the people replying to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What you need to do is talk to your son about healthy relationships and how the behavior she is showing isn't healthy or respectful. He needs to learn about what is respectful and healthy in how he should be treated by a girlfriend and this isn't it.

I would focus on him and getting him out of this and helping him learn how to choose better next time.

Amen to this. The girl sounds extremely needy and unhelpful. It also seems she can't accept "NO."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations OP you're in training to be one of the nasty MILs discussed on this board. Think of yourself as in the embryonic stages yet earning a solid A+ for your work so far.

Exactly. Her boy is her prince. The other person must be the problem, not her little boy.

WTH? That's not at all what I got from this. Funny - if the genders were reversed, your heads would be exploding because of the BOY who won't respect boundaries, back off when asked to, etc. But since it's a GIRL, you simply won't place the blame where it belongs. On her. Not OP and not her son. Grow up.