Teenage girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are people so nasty on this board?
My son had a clingy girlfriend when he was 17. She would text for hours even when she knew he was busy studying for exams. I did not interfere and a few months into the relationship she cut herself because she felt “neglected”.
Her parents said I should have intervened and told them earlier about her being so obsessed with my son. Apparently they had no idea that he even existed in her life.
OP, if you feel it’s way too much, please tell her parents as they are still responsible for their minor daughter.

THIS x 100. My son also experienced something similar with a girlfriend who threatened self-harm if he didn't "pay enough attention" to her. Very disturbing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations OP you're in training to be one of the nasty MILs discussed on this board. Think of yourself as in the embryonic stages yet earning a solid A+ for your work so far.

Exactly. Her boy is her prince. The other person must be the problem, not her little boy.

Um, could you explain how her son is the problem here? Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, as you know from DCUM - many on here have a girls / women can do no wrong attitude. If it is a boyfriend being clingy and disrupting online classes and constantly calling and testing - he will be deemed controlling and abusive and evil. But a girl doing it- perfectly fine. Many on here believe that girls / women can treat boys / men any way they want and that boys/men deserve to be abused, controlled and mistreated. Those are the people replying to you.

+1,000,000
The people you describe have issues. Avoid at all costs.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I asked a question on this forum earlier and received a lot of terrible responses. I’m surprised of all the people saying OP’s husband’s health is not endangered by more people. It makes me think the education level and job status of people is lower than they let on. Maybe DCUM has been taken over by the BabyCenter crowd.

OP - teach your son to set boundaries. If he can’t set boundaries during a time when people aren’t actually allowed to get together, then it will be worse when the order has ended.

[Anonymous]

Wow. So many entitled mothers of daughters. Maybe teach your girls about dignity and self-respect, and oh, BOUNDARIES. I would not want my daughter to be like that and I'd certainly want to know.

My son is not a prince. He's just trying to study. He can't be answering to her every text. She is starting to annoy him and that's a lot, considering he's a very patient kid.

[Anonymous]

She's lonely and parents probably not around or give her attention. You need to talk to her about it and say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's lonely and parents probably not around or give her attention. You need to talk to her about it and say no.

Parents are around. She has a full house.

[Anonymous]

I'm all for treating young adults as adults, but this is a 16 year old, not an 18 year old. 16 year olds still have parents. Parents should feel free to have a discussion with other parents. It might not go well, but that's because of the particular people, because you never know. It's not because of anything else. It's not because it's an unreasonable thing to do.

[Anonymous]

OP, tell your son he has your permission to use you as the scapegoat. He can tell her, my parents say I'm using the phone too much (or I'm grounded because.... whatever reason) and so I can only have my phone between schoolwork and dinner (4 PM to 6 PM) and then another hour in the evening. Then he should STICK TO THOSE HOURS and only respond to texts from her at those times. this doesn't work if he is on social media etc.

If hes willing to risk breaking up with her, he can just tell her that it is his decision to only text during those hours. Sounds like she is getting super clingy and he might be ready to cut her loose.