I NEVER volunteer information on how we are doing or what we are planning during this pandemic. But when people ask if I plan to send my oldest to camp or my youngest back to daycare soon, I just say “no”. I do not say more than that.
And the diatribes begin! I’ve been told I am hysterical, catastrophizing, insane and over-protective. I’ve been reminded countless times of all the way kids die unrelated to COVID 19 (as if that matters or makes one bit of sense). This is my family and my life. If I want to keep my kids home for the summer that is my choice. STFU. |
Lots of drama in your life. |
Just say "we'll be making that decision when the time comes" |
Tell them instead of us |
Why are you around so many eye rolling people? You're going to get Coronavirus if you keep it up. |
A lot of the “us” here on DCUM are doing the same. We are the “them”. |
I just shrug. Think a lot of extroverts and drama lamas are having a really hard time right now. |
No one is reacting that way because of a simple no. Just not happening.
Look on this board. No one is referred to as any of those things if all they say is we aren't going back to daycare this summer. You will see the people who get described as hysterical or catastrophizing are the ones who are acting in hysterical or catastrophizing ways based on what they are saying. I don't believe you at all that a simple no to a question led to rants against you multiple times. |
OP here. You are wrong. All I said to the direct question was “no”. Not one thing more. And it’s happened four times in the last two days. |
Eh, I don't know OP, but my neighbors are all hanging out together on our street (informally) and I've clearly been deemed the crazy one because I don't attend the gatherings or let the kids play with theirs. I say hello politely, but don't approach or join in (they usually have a few lawn chairs out and sit together with drinks). They don't rant at me but I can see them looking at each other and eye rolling as I walk by. We never even had a conversation about what I was doing, I am simply not joining and keeping my distance. They were perfectly friendly before all this. |
Frankly, if you're already made a decision about camp, you do seem alarmist and prone to snap judgments that may not stand the test of time. |
No it hasn't. Or else there is so much history prior to these very simple but frequent conversations you are having that people already know you are extremely dramatic. But I am 99.999999% sure this didn't happen 4 times in the last two days in response to you saying the word no to your child returning to daycare. |
Ugh. No one cares. Geez. Get a life! |
NP. If OP wants to keep kids home from camp she is not "alarmist and prone to snap judgements." The opposite, in fact. She's paying intelligent attention to the news and seeing the big picture as it's being projected by reputable scientists, who increasingly are warning that summer will not be a time to slack off on distancing. OP, don't let "I wanna go back to 'normal'" complainers and critics get to you. If acquaintances fume at you for your choices, they're projecting their own frustrations onto you. Their problem, not yours. Just never offer information and be circumspect about whatever you do say. "We'll decide that nearer the time" followed by to stay change of subject. |
Are these relatives? Friends? Who cares enough about what you are doing to rant at you? |