Online Dating - Nice body, but face is so-so

[ddintysons]

I hope that everyone is doing as well as possible during the COVID-19 lockdown. I am a divorced man in my mid-50s getting back into the dating scene.

I am a tax attorney (fun day and night!!), and I have been trying on-line dating (Match, Bumble).

My issue is how to optimize my profile photos.

I was an athlete in college (I boxed) and I am good shape. Specifically, my profile photos that include my body get the most positive comments (more specifically, any photos that include my legs or that are full-body get the most comments.) My face, which is what most people lead with, is not stellar. I had women I have met IRF after meeting on the site tell me that I am "more handsome in person." The women who have seen me naked will compliment my body.

However, female friends that have reviewed my profile will gently suggest that I avoid just headshots.

My looks are what they are (I am bald and dark-complected, and appear older than I am). While having a number of full-body photos can work well for a woman's profile, for a man this tends to indicate he is hiding his face (because he is married or in a relationship.)

Please know that I have taken a number of photos (including photos by professional photographers) that include or focus on my face and women still seem to focus on my body.

[Anonymous]

post both. Lead with full body but also include one closer up of your face. The kind of woman I hope you want to attract won't be turned off by a "so so" face. If she is, then she's shallow and you don't want her anyway.

[Anonymous]

What are you trying to attract? I say this because for someone looking for a meaningful relationship, any swimsuit or shirtless photos are a hard no as are photos with your kids.

[Anonymous]

Post a photo in shorts and tee with sunglasses and one up close. No shirtless if you're looking for a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Have you considered using concealer or other subtle makeup for photos?

[Anonymous]

Also get professional photo shoot that can show you in your best light, nice smile, colors etc.

[Anonymous]

Lead with tax attorney and you'll be set!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lead with tax attorney and you'll be set!

Actually, phrase it as partner in a law firm.

[ddintysons]

What are you trying to attract? I say this because for someone looking for a meaningful relationship, any swimsuit or shirtless photos are a hard no as are photos with your kids.

I am looking for a woman near my age for a relationship.

Lead with tax attorney and you'll be set!

Actually, phrase it as partner in a law firm.

Once I lead with this information (or include that I am a CPA as well) women just want to hook-up with me non-stop. They just want to meet their selfish animal needs.

[Anonymous]

ddintysons wrote:I hope that everyone is doing as well as possible during the COVID-19 lockdown. I am a divorced man in my mid-50s getting back into the dating scene.

I am a tax attorney (fun day and night!!), and I have been trying on-line dating (Match, Bumble).

My issue is how to optimize my profile photos.

I was an athlete in college (I boxed) and I am good shape. Specifically, my profile photos that include my body get the most positive comments (more specifically, any photos that include my legs or that are full-body get the most comments.) My face, which is what most people lead with, is not stellar. I had women I have met IRF after meeting on the site tell me that I am "more handsome in person." The women who have seen me naked will compliment my body.

However, female friends that have reviewed my profile will gently suggest that I avoid just headshots.

My looks are what they are (I am bald and dark-complected, and appear older than I am). While having a number of full-body photos can work well for a woman's profile, for a man this tends to indicate he is hiding his face (because he is married or in a relationship.)

Please know that I have taken a number of photos (including photos by professional photographers) that include or focus on my face and women still seem to focus on my body.

Friend, you're screwed and will wind up like this loser:

https://www1.pictures.zimbio.com/gi/2019+Vanity+Fair+Oscar+Party+Hosted+Radhika+Y5OZyKYdo8Nx.jpg

[ddintysons]

Friend, you're screwed and will wind up like this loser:

https://www1.pictures.zimbio.com/gi/2019+Vanity+Fa...osted+Radhika+Y5OZyKYdo8Nx.jpg

I hooked up with the woman pictured with Jason (in the link above) and she said that tax attorneys were way hotter than action film stars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also get professional photo shoot that can show you in your best light, nice smile, colors etc.

Lots of women use professionally taken photos for OLD and that's fine but I wonder if women would look askance at a professionally taken male OLD profile photo. "Too fake, trying too hard"?

[Anonymous]

While having a number of full-body photos can work well for a woman's profile, for a man this tends to indicate he is hiding his face (because he is married or in a relationship.)

Female or male:

No face pics = married

All face pics, no body pics = fat

[Anonymous]

Lead with a body/action shot (running, cycling) or an I look friendly/fun/active body shot (golf, sailing, etc) and then include the best head shot you have. Most women around your age (I am one) aren’t looking for the pretty boy players. I’d also include a blurb about yourself/what you are looking for that isn’t too serious but shows your personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lead with a body/action shot (running, cycling) or an I look friendly/fun/active body shot (golf, sailing, etc) and then include the best head shot you have. Most women around your age (I am one) aren’t looking for the pretty boy players. I’d also include a blurb about yourself/what you are looking for that isn’t too serious but shows your personality.

Meant to add- any guy that mentions yoga or meditation or obsessive type activities (eg ultra marathons, long distance cycling) are major turn offs in my circle of friends.