Will kids just quit...

[Anonymous]

I am re-thinking our commitment to soccer during this break for Covid-19. Do you think a lot of kids will decide not to return to soccer after being off for so long? It seems so unimportant now, and I am realize how much time it takes up. My kids are still young though (8 and 10). Anyway.... was just thinking about it tonight when I realized that all of them should be at practice.

[Anonymous]

it depends on your kid. If I was to bring this up to my kid, he would freak out.

I spent 2 hours on the field today filming him to send to his coach. We have a curriculum for the next few weeks.

[Anonymous]

If it were up to me, yes.

My boys are 6th & 8th grade U12/U15.

I hope the older one goes to HS next year and finds better things to do with his time.

I am most likely moving younger one to a less time intensive team whenever this starts back up.

Loving not driving all over the f-ing place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it were up to me, yes.

My boys are 6th & 8th grade U12/U15.

I hope the older one goes to HS next year and finds better things to do with his time.

I am most likely moving younger one to a less time intensive team whenever this starts back up.

Loving not driving all over the f-ing place.

And the “trapped year” really didn’t happen since nobody is playing this spring

[Anonymous]

My kid has been doing drills in the garage and backyard. Didn’t even ask, they just did it. Boredom does wonders.

[Anonymous]

Kids who are borderline committed may walk away. Other kids may become even more committed when they cant do something they love. Our daughter (U16) has been out in the yard getting touches on the ball every day to keep her skill level up. She misses being on the field with her team more than we ever expected.

[Anonymous]

Lots of kids end up quitting even without corona. There’s a bit of a “once you’re on the train it’s hard to get off” effect, and you rarely have time to stop and ask yourself if it’s what you want to be doing, either as the kid who is playing or the parent who has committed to taking their kid all over the mid Atlantic for games, younger kids perhaps in tow. My eldest quit the whole thing in eighth grade, my youngest stopped in about fifth grade and it was a relief. By then (I have multiple kids) I understood better that it was a real trade-off and that we should encourage our kids to really think about what they enjoy and how they want to spend their time. One kid switched to baseball, another to tennis. We had said they needed to be doing a sport but it could be a recreational sport. My kids ended up having a much better sense of what makes them happy and when they need to change directions, and that spilled over into other areas, from moving friend groups to choosing summer jobs. I worried my oldest would regret dropping soccer and wish he had stuck with it and played high school soccer, but he chose a totally different fall sport and made some great friends and had a terrific time.

[Anonymous]

We are not huge soccer people, but I do wonder if my kids will not go back to some activities after this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it depends on your kid. If I was to bring this up to my kid, he would freak out.

I spent 2 hours on the field today filming him to send to his coach. We have a curriculum for the next few weeks.

Kinda creepy to send film of your kid to another adult.

[Anonymous]

For you to bring that up, you are the creepy one. Video analysis of technique is pretty standard for a serious player who wants to improve. Coaches use it all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it depends on your kid. If I was to bring this up to my kid, he would freak out.

I spent 2 hours on the field today filming him to send to his coach. We have a curriculum for the next few weeks.

Kinda creepy to send film of your kid to another adult.

And now starts the "Thats creepy" parents . Get over yourself already! 99.9% of the world isn't trying to molest your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it were up to me, yes.

My boys are 6th & 8th grade U12/U15.

I hope the older one goes to HS next year and finds better things to do with his time.

I am most likely moving younger one to a less time intensive team whenever this starts back up.

Loving not driving all over the f-ing place.

You don't know how lucky you are. Trust me, there are worse things a high school kid can do with his time than play a sport.
#kindafeelingbadforyourkids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid has been doing drills in the garage and backyard. Didn’t even ask, they just did it. Boredom does wonders.

This!

My kids have still been practicing lacrosse and gymnastics every day, on their own without prompting. One has been going on long bike rides too (teen). When he gets home, he showers and changes clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For you to bring that up, you are the creepy one. Video analysis of technique is pretty standard for a serious player who wants to improve. Coaches use it all the time.

totally agree!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were up to me, yes.

My boys are 6th & 8th grade U12/U15.

I hope the older one goes to HS next year and finds better things to do with his time.

I am most likely moving younger one to a less time intensive team whenever this starts back up.

Loving not driving all over the f-ing place.

You don't know how lucky you are. Trust me, there are worse things a high school kid can do with his time than play a sport.
#kindafeelingbadforyourkids

Whatever. I was a D1 soccer player, my kids are athletic. They are loving playing on their own right now.

But, they are also smart as hell and this isn't a 'career choice'. I let them choose if you haven't read the above...and my younger one is liking basketball more and more anyways.

They have had 5 days a week of this since they were very young.