Will kids just quit...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were up to me, yes.

My boys are 6th & 8th grade U12/U15.

I hope the older one goes to HS next year and finds better things to do with his time.

I am most likely moving younger one to a less time intensive team whenever this starts back up.

Loving not driving all over the f-ing place.

You don't know how lucky you are. Trust me, there are worse things a high school kid can do with his time than play a sport.
#kindafeelingbadforyourkids

Whatever. I was a D1 soccer player, my kids are athletic. They are loving playing on their own right now.

But, they are also smart as hell and this isn't a 'career choice'. I let them choose if you haven't read the above...and my younger one is liking basketball more and more anyways.

They have had 5 days a week of this since they were very young.

And 'better things with his time' do not mean no sports. My kids live for sports---I mean better: not sitting in a car/bus for hours on end to play a 90 minute game. Running HS track, HS rugby, HS soccer---and not a Club sport that takes up 99% of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of kids end up quitting even without corona. There’s a bit of a “once you’re on the train it’s hard to get off” effect, and you rarely have time to stop and ask yourself if it’s what you want to be doing, either as the kid who is playing or the parent who has committed to taking their kid all over the mid Atlantic for games, younger kids perhaps in tow. My eldest quit the whole thing in eighth grade, my youngest stopped in about fifth grade and it was a relief. By then (I have multiple kids) I understood better that it was a real trade-off and that we should encourage our kids to really think about what they enjoy and how they want to spend their time. One kid switched to baseball, another to tennis. We had said they needed to be doing a sport but it could be a recreational sport. My kids ended up having a much better sense of what makes them happy and when they need to change directions, and that spilled over into other areas, from moving friend groups to choosing summer jobs. I worried my oldest would regret dropping soccer and wish he had stuck with it and played high school soccer, but he chose a totally different fall sport and made some great friends and had a terrific time.

This is a good point, and I wonder if this pause will affect my DS's desire for soccer. He's U17, HS junior, and has been debating if he wants to play in college or not. Part of me had been thinking, pre-Coronavirus, let's ditch club soccer for his upcoming senior year, he can still play on his HS team, play HS basketball* (his first love, but he hasn't pursued because of his height), and then just focus on college academically.

*he's in a small private school, the competition to make the team isn't hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it depends on your kid. If I was to bring this up to my kid, he would freak out.

I spent 2 hours on the field today filming him to send to his coach. We have a curriculum for the next few weeks.

sorry but this is cray cray

[Anonymous]

Both my kids are training everyday. Youtube, dribbling tricks, foot volley, they are loving the free play. I just toss all their sports equipment out on the driveway and let them do what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it depends on your kid. If I was to bring this up to my kid, he would freak out.

I spent 2 hours on the field today filming him to send to his coach. We have a curriculum for the next few weeks.

sorry but this is cray cray

I am an adult, so you need to translate (and then tell us all the sane things you are doing). And please, no emojis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it depends on your kid. If I was to bring this up to my kid, he would freak out.

I spent 2 hours on the field today filming him to send to his coach. We have a curriculum for the next few weeks.

sorry but this is cray cray

I am an adult, so you need to translate (and then tell us all the sane things you are doing). And please, no emojis.

Being realistic.

You sound like a nut job. Doubtful coach will watch that amazing footage.

[Anonymous]

If they love soccer, they’re not gonna quit.

[Anonymous]

If your kid is "off" then they may as well be a rec player. most club sent out workouts etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it depends on your kid. If I was to bring this up to my kid, he would freak out.

I spent 2 hours on the field today filming him to send to his coach. We have a curriculum for the next few weeks.

sorry but this is cray cray

I am an adult, so you need to translate (and then tell us all the sane things you are doing). And please, no emojis.

Being realistic.

You sound like a nut job. Doubtful coach will watch that amazing footage.

And you sound like my children. I agree on the footage but grow up please.

[Anonymous]

at some point that seems like too much work chasing a fairytale

if you are think you are an ugly poor low class fat girl ... and you dream of being Cinderella
then you can go on a strict diet, do cardio every day, lift diligently
work lots of hours to buy fashionable clothes and acquire wealth
get plastic surgery on face and bod add glamour makeup artist,
modeling and style coach, life coach, etiquette coach
date only the cool good looking guys from 1%

but that doesn't mean you live happily ever after

OR
you can realize that you are not an ugly duckling: your "own image; no longer a dark, gray bird, ugly and disagreeable to look at, but a graceful and beautiful swan."
"I never dreamed of such happiness as this, while I was an ugly duckling.”

It's okay to just have fun, to just be good not great, even to be bad. Kids need to learn to strive and be their best, but they also need to learn and accept that their best is good enough no matter how it relates to others.

Chase the fairytale ever after if you want, but if you have to chase it that hard then it isnt natural.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:at some point that seems like too much work chasing a fairytale

if you are think you are an ugly poor low class fat girl ... and you dream of being Cinderella
then you can go on a strict diet, do cardio every day, lift diligently
work lots of hours to buy fashionable clothes and acquire wealth
get plastic surgery on face and bod add glamour makeup artist,
modeling and style coach, life coach, etiquette coach
date only the cool good looking guys from 1%

but that doesn't mean you live happily ever after

OR
you can realize that you are not an ugly duckling: your "own image; no longer a dark, gray bird, ugly and disagreeable to look at, but a graceful and beautiful swan."
"I never dreamed of such happiness as this, while I was an ugly duckling.”

It's okay to just have fun, to just be good not great, even to be bad. Kids need to learn to strive and be their best, but they also need to learn and accept that their best is good enough no matter how it relates to others.

Chase the fairytale ever after if you want, but if you have to chase it that hard then it isnt natural.

+1 You tell em Hans

[Anonymous]

OP here. I guess my point is that we will see who really loves a sport - any sport really - after this whole mess clears. It takes a lot of self-motivation to stay in shape, practice every day. And as a parent, I just don't have the time to keep on them. We are all just trying to keep our jobs.

[Anonymous]

exactly, let the kids play if they want to

training is a job, play is play

p.s. ugly girls can also just put a bag over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it depends on your kid. If I was to bring this up to my kid, he would freak out.

I spent 2 hours on the field today filming him to send to his coach. We have a curriculum for the next few weeks.

sorry but this is cray cray

I am an adult, so you need to translate (and then tell us all the sane things you are doing). And please, no emojis.

Being realistic.

You sound like a nut job. Doubtful coach will watch that amazing footage.

And you sound like my children. I agree on the footage but grow up please.

NP here. I don't think the OP is sending 2 hours of footage. It probably took 2 hours to get 30 or so minutes of footage. And I don't see anything weird about it. My kids coach put out a challenge to the team; the best training videos receive a prize. He's offering 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place prizes.

[Anonymous]

well then 2 hours of video seems uncool to try to win a prize
clever editing and showing the umpteenth attempt is deceitful

no matter how you dice it the 2 hour video is wrong

anything up to 10 minutes is within range of odd but normal