Want Wife To Stop Breastfeeding..

[Anonymous]

My wife has been breastfeeding our son for a little over 4 months. We had issues with latching ( small, flat nipples) and required use of a nipples shield. He was never and still is not good at nursing. He nurses sometimes, but most times he rejects the breast and wants a bottle. She had supply issues in the beginning, and used formula, but now she is making a little more than what what he eats. I just feel like she is miserable. She has been moody and I know it’s a lot for her. Our son sleeps 8-7 hours a night, and she still gets up to pump to make sure she makes enough for him. I feel like she would be so much happier if she would at least partially formula feed. I think she needs the full nights sleep. I want her to stop or at least cut back on the pumping, but I don’t know how to tell her without feeling like unsupportive.

[Anonymous]

Tell her yoyou support her decision, to keep going or stop, whatever she decides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her yoyou support her decision, to keep going or stop, whatever she decides.

+1

[Anonymous]

I breastfed two kids. One until about 8 months the other until nearly 2. If my husband made any such suggestion I would have been pissed. It was not easy. Support her with whatever she decides to do. She needs to draw her own conclusion.

[Anonymous]

She’s a grown woman who just went through childbirth. She can make her own decisions. You need to support those decisions and not instill doubt.

[Anonymous]

Don't put any pressure on her. She may come to that conclusion on her own. It's a big deal to quit breastfeeding. I wanted to and I still cried a ton when it happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s a grown woman who just went through childbirth. She can make her own decisions. You need to support those decisions and not instill doubt.

It doesn’t sound like OPs wife is breastfeeding. It sounds like she is exclusively pumping. If she’s complaining and in a bad mood, I would say something. Maybe she should stop pumping in the middle of the night if you’re baby already sleeps 11 hours at a night. Go buy some formula and tell her you bought it so she doesn’t have to stress herself out over pumping.

[Anonymous]

You need to sit down and be quiet. Lovingly.

[Anonymous]

“We” has issues with latching? Are you nursing too? Leave your poor wife alone.

[Anonymous]

Tread very lightly OP, this is precarious territory. If she's putting this much work into it, it's probably pretty important to her. I'd say something like the sacrifices you are making for our baby are really amazing. I hope you know that I would support you if you wanted to introduce some formula back into the routine to take some of the burden off. Especially now that baby is sleeping well and getting close to being able to eat solid food. Then, let it go.

[Anonymous]

Oh, please! It's his child and life too. If his wife is having so much trouble nursing, she needs to go with formula and move on with life. She is making everyone miserable to prove absolutely nothing,!

[Anonymous]

Please leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't put any pressure on her. She may come to that conclusion on her own. It's a big deal to quit breastfeeding. I wanted to and I still cried a ton when it happened.

+1. Be supportive of any choice she makes. It is such an emotional decision.

[Anonymous]

I hope you aren't a control freak, OP.
I never even heard of a husband saying HE wants his wife to stop breastfeeding. That's just not appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I breastfed two kids. One until about 8 months the other until nearly 2. If my husband made any such suggestion I would have been pissed. It was not easy. Support her with whatever she decides to do. She needs to draw her own conclusion.

This is his child too and he should get say and he's right that it will help her a lot if he can also feed.