Different Wake Up Times

[Anonymous]

I generally try / need to get up about an hour before DW. Try to be quiet / keep alarm volume low etc but sometimes I get stressed I am going to sleep through it or equally stressed I will wake her up. (Or of course worst case, I sleep through but wakes her up...)

How do other folks deal with different wake up times?

[Anonymous]

I set my alarm for an hour before DH’s wake up. I turn it off within a second or two and roll out of bed. He almost never stirs.

[Anonymous]

Stay Woke.

[Anonymous]

I just set my alarm and turn it off as soon as it goes off. Then, I slip out of bed and into the bathroom. I don't think he wakes up.

[Anonymous]

I never set an alarm as I just seem to always wake up around 5-5:30. That gives me an hour of peace to read the paper and have a cup of coffee. My husband is usually awake then but he just rolls over until 6:15 or so. Neither of us has used an alarm clock in years unless we have an early morning flight. Then we barely sleep at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I set my alarm for an hour before DH’s wake up. I turn it off within a second or two and roll out of bed. He almost never stirs.

Same I am not a user of the snooze button.

[Anonymous]

Just turn off the alarm quickly and be reasonably quiet in the bedroom. IMO it's incumbent on the late sleeper to stay asleep.

Learning to use ear plugs is a great skill for anyone cohabiting. She/he will still hear the alarm but the walking around and bathroom will be a non-factor.

[Anonymous]

DH gets up at 530 to work out. Sometimes I nudge him when the alarm goes off and I go right back to sleep. Usually don't wake up until he gets back and is rustling around and.i have to get up anyways. He lays out his gym clothes before going to bed, so he doesn't make a lot of noise that early

[Anonymous]

Is it an issue for her or are you just being extra considerate? FWIW my husband wakes up an hour earlier than me one day a week and usually don't even stir. On the rare occasion I do wake up it's like a little bonus, I get to go back to sleep!

[Anonymous]

Sleep in different bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just turn off the alarm quickly and be reasonably quiet in the bedroom. IMO it's incumbent on the late sleeper to stay asleep.

Learning to use ear plugs is a great skill for anyone cohabiting. She/he will still hear the alarm but the walking around and bathroom will be a non-factor.

I agree with this. I need to wake up really early and my husband just started getting up with me.

[Anonymous]

We have Fitbits that vibrate on our wrists so the other person doesn't hear it. I bought one for DH after he would wake up before his alarm and then go into the shower but would forget he had set the alarm and I would have to get out of bed to turn it off. I hate being woken up before I need to get up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just turn off the alarm quickly and be reasonably quiet in the bedroom. IMO it's incumbent on the late sleeper to stay asleep.

Learning to use ear plugs is a great skill for anyone cohabiting. She/he will still hear the alarm but the walking around and bathroom will be a non-factor.

+1. If DH is having trouble sleeping or wakes up before the alarm he will shut it off before it goes off, but if he’s asleep it wakes me up, he turns it off quickly, and I go back to sleep. I am a fan of the single earbud in the ear turned up toward the ceiling (no earbud in the ear smashed into the pillow - also I have squishy earbuds). I also often plop an extra pillow over my head when he gets up to further block out light/sound. The only awful thing is if he somehow accidentally snoozes the alarm or forgets to turn it off if he wakes up before it and it goes off when he’s in the shower. But that’s extremely rare. Probably hasn’t happened in over a year at least. Has happened within the last 5.5 years because it has happened in this house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just turn off the alarm quickly and be reasonably quiet in the bedroom. IMO it's incumbent on the late sleeper to stay asleep.

Learning to use ear plugs is a great skill for anyone cohabiting. She/he will still hear the alarm but the walking around and bathroom will be a non-factor.

+1. If DH is having trouble sleeping or wakes up before the alarm he will shut it off before it goes off, but if he’s asleep it wakes me up, he turns it off quickly, and I go back to sleep. I am a fan of the single earbud in the ear turned up toward the ceiling (no earbud in the ear smashed into the pillow - also I have squishy earbuds). I also often plop an extra pillow over my head when he gets up to further block out light/sound. The only awful thing is if he somehow accidentally snoozes the alarm or forgets to turn it off if he wakes up before it and it goes off when he’s in the shower. But that’s extremely rare. Probably hasn’t happened in over a year at least. Has happened within the last 5.5 years because it has happened in this house.

The last time my DH forgot to turn off the alarm before getting in the shower I unplugged the entire clock radio. I couldn’t figure out how to shut it off and was worried it would just snooze. Unplugging it was easier.

[Anonymous]

Great example of why sharing a bed is dumb. Good sleep is way too important. If you have the space, sleep in separate bedrooms. Then when you're feeling amorous, you can be like: "My place or yours?"