Trying to make mom friends

[Anonymous]

I met a mom at a play place. Our kids were the same age and we exchanged numbers. I texted her and she never responded. Guess she isn’t interested in hanging out? I have joined a moms group and it gives us something to do but don’t really click with anyone. Many of the moms seem to already know one another and kids have been friends since babies.

How did you make your mom friends?

Would you text the mom again?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t text her again but then I don’t like to chase after people. I totally understand your frustration though. It’s hard to meet other mom friends.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t text again, but she may reach out. You never know.

I’m having trouble too, so no answers! I don’t have any hobbies but am thinking of starting one so I can make friends.

[Anonymous]

Don't text again. She will reach out if interested. Keep trying OP! It's very hard to click with people. It's like dating!

- another mom with no mom friends. In my case, it's my fault... I'm too weird for my buttoned-up neighborhood and can't seem to fake it well enough to fool them into fitting in.

[Anonymous]

I'm horrible at texting, and it was even worse with a new baby, so I'd appreciate it if you texted me again. Nothing demanding, like "hi want to be friends?" But "hi it's me Sally from the play place. This week we're going back on wed and Fri afternoons. Hope too catch you!"

[Anonymous]

No ^ YOU get your act together and text.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, people are really flaky. I’d keep going to the moms group activities, because new people join those kind of groups all the time and you might find someone you really click with. Or if they have mom night out or book club, try getting involved with those so you can meet the moms without their kids.

[Anonymous]

How did I make mom friends?

1. I took my newborn for a walk every day. Twice a day most days. You meet people when you're strolling around.
2. I asked my midwife. She connected me to a woman who gave birth 4 months before I did, and a woman who gave birth a month after I did. We started a playgroup, then invited parents we thought seemed cool to join us. It grew so big it broke into two different playgroups based on location. My kids are 7 and 8 and we're still friends with some of the playgroup people.
3. I became friends with the people at work who were parents.
4. I made mom friends at the farmer's market. There's a kids art area and we met people there.

[Anonymous]

I met a handful of mom friends through preschool and in Kindergarten. Haven't made any since then.

[Anonymous]

I’ve made all my mom friends through Fit4Mom

[Anonymous]

I say reach out one more time with something specific like, "Little Bobby and I are headed to Rio to feed the ducks at 11 if you want to meet us there!" If no response after that, let it go.

Not all people are instigators when it comes to friendship, and some are very shy. I met some of my best mom friends because I am shy and they kept pursuing me

Otherwise, I say just keep putting yourself out there. Unfortunately, I did not meet any friends through MOMS group or Fit4Mom (although they were pushed on me alllll the time). And, sorry, but Fit4Mom was actually the worst. I am in terrible shape and my baby cried the entire time- it was a disaster the few times I tried it. People on Facebook groups push the Fit4Mom all the time as well- maybe since it is a business? It wasn't for me, but maybe if you are a hardcore workout person?

I've met a lot of friends in random meetup groups, through Nextdoor by scheduling playdates, and just by going to to the same places over and over and running into the same people (like MyGym, Kids Play Gallery, etc.).

You could always start your own meetup group as well- such as "Babies born in 2019".

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met a mom at a play place. Our kids were the same age and we exchanged numbers. I texted her and she never responded. Guess she isn’t interested in hanging out? I have joined a moms group and it gives us something to do but don’t really click with anyone. Many of the moms seem to already know one another and kids have been friends since babies.

How did you make your mom friends?

Would you text the mom again?

I wouldn't, just try at other places to connect. I never had any luck there but wish you luck! Just know you have to have a certain status or make a certain amount I think to feel comfortable to "keep up" with the moms. I was the "poor mom" when my baby was born so I ultimately stopped hanging after some very awkward and flaky meetups.

[Anonymous]

I find that my few friends that make lots of plans and host seem to have more friends. One friend probably asks me three times for every one time I can actually make it.

[Anonymous]

I met a batch of mom friends at the moms group at the hospital. I saw them once a week when DS was really small and then maybe once a month for a while. He's 7 now and we get together a couple times a year.

I met a couple mom friends when DS was in pre-school and a few more when he started elementary school. Some at our temple as well.

Some have come and gone and some have stuck around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met a mom at a play place. Our kids were the same age and we exchanged numbers. I texted her and she never responded. Guess she isn’t interested in hanging out? I have joined a moms group and it gives us something to do but don’t really click with anyone. Many of the moms seem to already know one another and kids have been friends since babies.

How did you make your mom friends?

Would you text the mom again?

I wouldn't, just try at other places to connect. I never had any luck there but wish you luck! Just know you have to have a certain status or make a certain amount I think to feel comfortable to "keep up" with the moms. I was the "poor mom" when my baby was born so I ultimately stopped hanging after some very awkward and flaky meetups.

I agree with this. To keep up, you have to constantly go out and spend money on lunches, activities, etc. Eventually I realized I couldn’t keep up. Plus all those moms going out and doing things all the time had house cleaners. I did not.