Trying to make mom friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met a mom at a play place. Our kids were the same age and we exchanged numbers. I texted her and she never responded. Guess she isn’t interested in hanging out? I have joined a moms group and it gives us something to do but don’t really click with anyone. Many of the moms seem to already know one another and kids have been friends since babies.

How did you make your mom friends?

Would you text the mom again?

I wouldn't, just try at other places to connect. I never had any luck there but wish you luck! Just know you have to have a certain status or make a certain amount I think to feel comfortable to "keep up" with the moms. I was the "poor mom" when my baby was born so I ultimately stopped hanging after some very awkward and flaky meetups.

I agree with this. To keep up, you have to constantly go out and spend money on lunches, activities, etc. Eventually I realized I couldn’t keep up. Plus all those moms going out and doing things all the time had house cleaners. I did not.

Wrong crowd it sounds like. My mom friends also didn’t want to spend much so we did play dates and park meet ups mostly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met a mom at a play place. Our kids were the same age and we exchanged numbers. I texted her and she never responded. Guess she isn’t interested in hanging out? I have joined a moms group and it gives us something to do but don’t really click with anyone. Many of the moms seem to already know one another and kids have been friends since babies.

How did you make your mom friends?

Would you text the mom again?

I wouldn't, just try at other places to connect. I never had any luck there but wish you luck! Just know you have to have a certain status or make a certain amount I think to feel comfortable to "keep up" with the moms. I was the "poor mom" when my baby was born so I ultimately stopped hanging after some very awkward and flaky meetups.

I agree with this. To keep up, you have to constantly go out and spend money on lunches, activities, etc. Eventually I realized I couldn’t keep up. Plus all those moms going out and doing things all the time had house cleaners. I did not.

OP here. DH earns a high income and I like to go out to eat. I never thought that this would even be a factor. I’m happy to pack sandwiches or go out to a nice brunch.

[Anonymous]

I would text again personally. I met my mom friends thru a local moms group I found on meetup. It took me a few months to find “ my people” within that group tho. The first couple I met were more conservative than I am. But I kept going and now my kid is Elem age and I still have friends from this group that I do stuff with. Our kids are all still friends too.

[Anonymous]

It is like dating. You just have to keep putting yourself out there. I had a friend tell me that when her oldest was a baby she was exchanging phone numbers with moms all over town. My kids are older now but it was hard at first but you just have to keep trying. Don't text her but do keep exchanging numbers and trying. You will meet moms everywhere and you will click with some. It will work out.

[Anonymous]

Ugh it is so hard. I feel like I click with people, but with three kids 5 and under and 2 parents working outside of the house I am just too exhausted to put the effort in. But then I get sad and wish I had more friends. Blah!

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Please come back and tell us if you ever find something that worked for you. I’ve tried so many things and have simply given up. Child is only 3 so maybe K will be another opportunity to connect.