DD (14) is boy crazy, not sure how to deal

[Anonymous]

Since starting 8th grade DD has been boy crazy. She started the year with one BF and now she's onto another. She's constantly texting and talking via phone with the same 2-3 boys. I've read and listened in on some of the conversations, and they appear to be harmless. They talk about mostly school, teachers, HW, friends, etc... We don't allow 1:1 dating, so having a boyfriend is more being together in school and hanging out in groups. It appears that within her friend group, they are trading / switching off boyfriends every few weeks. Is this normal activity for 8th grade?

[Anonymous]

Normal activity. But I would have VERY open and honest talks with her about oral sex, sex, peer pressure, inappropriate pictures, social media sharing of pictures, etc.

Be prepared to start birth control by 16, and have condoms in the house available for taking. Again, it may be completely unnecessary, but you cannot be too safe. At very least she can give condoms to friends if they need them.

[Anonymous]

It depends what she does with her "boyfriends". I did absolutely nothing with my first boyfriend. It was just a label we applied to our friendly relationship

[Anonymous]

Make sure she is treating them with respect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normal activity. But I would have VERY open and honest talks with her about oral sex, sex, peer pressure, inappropriate pictures, social media sharing of pictures, etc.

Be prepared to start birth control by 16, and have condoms in the house available for taking. Again, it may be completely unnecessary, but you cannot be too safe. At very least she can give condoms to friends if they need them.

I don't recommend being "that parent" who supplies condoms to high school girls. You have good intentions, but this is NOT your responsibility and could blow back hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure she is treating them with respect

More importantly, make sure she understands what it means to be TREATED with respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make sure she is treating them with respect

More importantly, make sure she understands what it means to be TREATED with respect.

“Trading” boyfriends every few weeks doesn’t seem respectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normal activity. But I would have VERY open and honest talks with her about oral sex, sex, peer pressure, inappropriate pictures, social media sharing of pictures, etc.

Be prepared to start birth control by 16, and have condoms in the house available for taking. Again, it may be completely unnecessary, but you cannot be too safe. At very least she can give condoms to friends if they need them.

No. Many parents will understand that she and you are enabling such behavior among minors. Please don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make sure she is treating them with respect

More importantly, make sure she understands what it means to be TREATED with respect.

“Trading” boyfriends every few weeks doesn’t seem respectful.

I know what OP means. This isn't "wife swapping" so much as play-acting. Normal girl drama. Jenny likes Johnny and they "go together" or "hang out" for a couple of weeks. Same for Shaniqua and Larlo. Then after a month, Jenny and Johnny have a screaming fight because his dance proposal wasn't elaborate enough and she feels dissed and so she ends up kissing Larlo. Shaniqua, whos is felling burned, sets her sights on making Johnny HER man, and then there is a big announcement on the Instagram or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Normal activity. But I would have VERY open and honest talks with her about oral sex, sex, peer pressure, inappropriate pictures, social media sharing of pictures, etc.

Be prepared to start birth control by 16, and have condoms in the house available for taking. Again, it may be completely unnecessary, but you cannot be too safe. At very least she can give condoms to friends if they need them.

I don't recommend being "that parent" who supplies condoms to high school girls. You have good intentions, but this is NOT your responsibility and could blow back hard.

No giving someone condoms will not "blow back hard". I seriously doubt the teen is going to go around passing out condoms at a sex party. LOL.. Or even pass them to one more person. They might, but highly unlikely in teen's world view. If they did more power to them.

Condoms are not illegal for 16 year olds to own or buy.

Condoms are way better for 16 year olds, than STD's and pregnancy.

I agree with the above post 100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Normal activity. But I would have VERY open and honest talks with her about oral sex, sex, peer pressure, inappropriate pictures, social media sharing of pictures, etc.

Be prepared to start birth control by 16, and have condoms in the house available for taking. Again, it may be completely unnecessary, but you cannot be too safe. At very least she can give condoms to friends if they need them.

No. Many parents will understand that she and you are enabling such behavior among minors. Please don't.

No, you are not living in the real world. Sixteen year olds while they are minors they can buy condoms. It's not against the law. If a teen is going to have sex they have already decided before getting condoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since starting 8th grade DD has been boy crazy. She started the year with one BF and now she's onto another. She's constantly texting and talking via phone with the same 2-3 boys. I've read and listened in on some of the conversations, and they appear to be harmless. They talk about mostly school, teachers, HW, friends, etc... We don't allow 1:1 dating, so having a boyfriend is more being together in school and hanging out in groups. It appears that within her friend group, they are trading / switching off boyfriends every few weeks. Is this normal activity for 8th grade?

Sex education is a priority here. Safe sex just in case.

Yes, there are plenty of 8th graders doing this.

More important keep lines of communication open about sex.

Obviously no boys alone in house or in basement or her room.

Can not keep them locked up forever. Education is they key.

[Anonymous]

Teach her not to have sex with a guy who doesn’t know how to buy condoms to have sex. Don’t have sex with a guy who doesn’t supply condoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Normal activity. But I would have VERY open and honest talks with her about oral sex, sex, peer pressure, inappropriate pictures, social media sharing of pictures, etc.

Be prepared to start birth control by 16, and have condoms in the house available for taking. Again, it may be completely unnecessary, but you cannot be too safe. At very least she can give condoms to friends if they need them.

No. Many parents will understand that she and you are enabling such behavior among minors. Please don't.

I don't care what the parents understand. They are coming from my teen, not me. I'm not enabling anything. This has worked for my 18 year old son, and now applies to my daughter, because rules are the same at our house. My son only gave them out to one friend. That friend was going to have sex, condoms or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Normal activity. But I would have VERY open and honest talks with her about oral sex, sex, peer pressure, inappropriate pictures, social media sharing of pictures, etc.

Be prepared to start birth control by 16, and have condoms in the house available for taking. Again, it may be completely unnecessary, but you cannot be too safe. At very least she can give condoms to friends if they need them.

No. Many parents will understand that she and you are enabling such behavior among minors. Please don't.

Minors are able to do such behaviors without any help. And if they do, it is better that they use protection. Or do you want to encourage more abortions and STDs?