Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!

[Anonymous]

We’ve only been married for 3 years and we have a two year old. He moved out the day after Christmas. He gave me back the gift I bought him for Christmas and told me that I don’t put any thought into the gifts I get him, he’s no longer in love with me, and he refuses to go into a new year/decade being married to me. I’ve had time to process all of this, but it still hurts like hell. I honestly think there’s another woman because this came out of nowhere. I’m sure I can take care of the mortgage on my own, but I’m worried about other bills as the mortgage is most of one paycheck. Someone tell me everything will be okay!

[Anonymous]

OP, first off, no matter his reasons, he is a d*ck for his timing alone. Saying you don't put thought into gifts isn't the reason; it is just a cheap shot. Everything will be okay. Try and secure some legal advice, and, spend some time assessing all bills, credit cards, and, their usage in past few months. While it sucks currently, you and the 2-year old will survive and prosper. GL

[Anonymous]

get all the financials together
once you have the records of all assets,
go to the lawyer and feel them out
pick one

having all the financials in order before hand will help with lawyer costs, I am sure he has already contacted a lawyer and will bring you a Martial Settlement Agreement to sign

[Anonymous]

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.”

[Anonymous]

You will be okay. Do not try to win him back. Keep your dignity and move forward. Every woman I know that went through a divorce says that going through it is hell, but life on the other side is pretty awesome.

As for your bills:
1) can you get a roommate?
2) you might not be able to keep the house unless you can buy him out or have an agreement that you stay in the house and when you sell you split the proceeds.

[Anonymous]

So rude. Right after Christmas.

Must be something or someone else.

[Anonymous]

Please let him know that his 2 year old child will be staying with him every other weekend as well as a couple of nights during the week. If he needs help with childproofing his new place, point him to a website around this.

He doesn’t get to walk away from his responsibilities as a parent.

[Anonymous]

OP today find all your financials. Any papers that relate to retirement, savings, checking, etc... I know it's a pain. Better to be prepared.

As soon as you can get your self a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

I think there is more to this. Regardless of what is going on, most people know there are issues prior to someone just moving out.

[Anonymous]

Shouldn’t she close all their joint accounts and credit cards?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shouldn’t she close all their joint accounts and credit cards?

I would. I would open my own today and close the others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shouldn’t she close all their joint accounts and credit cards?

I would. I would open my own today and close the others.

THIS. Do it now, OP. He has been planning this for awhile and who knows what he is doing to your joint finances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve only been married for 3 years and we have a two year old. He moved out the day after Christmas. He gave me back the gift I bought him for Christmas and told me that I don’t put any thought into the gifts I get him, he’s no longer in love with me, and he refuses to go into a new year/decade being married to me. I’ve had time to process all of this, but it still hurts like hell. I honestly think there’s another woman because this came out of nowhere. I’m sure I can take care of the mortgage on my own, but I’m worried about other bills as the mortgage is most of one paycheck. Someone tell me everything will be okay!

He moved out so that’s abandonment and you may be able to get primary custody

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please let him know that his 2 year old child will be staying with him every other weekend as well as a couple of nights during the week. If he needs help with childproofing his new place, point him to a website around this.

He doesn’t get to walk away from his responsibilities as a parent.

I’d rather get as much of his money for child support than suggest I want a child spending a lot of time with a man-child (at least until he’s grown up). Because everything this guy is doing screams he married and had a kid too soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shouldn’t she close all their joint accounts and credit cards?

I would. I would open my own today and close the others.

You cannot unilaterally close joint accounts