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at what age do girls stop wailing when getting their hair combed?
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Anonymous
| I've been living with this for 9 years. When will the weeping over hair tangles fade away? |
Anonymous
| My 8 year old recently started combing herself while wet with conditioner in the shower. that helps on shower days. on others, still the weeping. |
Anonymous
| I never did - eventually my mother cut off all my hair at Age 7 because she didn't want to hear the crying anymore. |
Anonymous
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I hope this doesn't sound rude, but at 8 years I bet that she is definitely capable of combing through her own hair. And, bonus points for you, then she can yell at herself if it hurts!
Also, maybe show her ways to shampoo her hair more gently (no need to pile it on top of her head), so that there are fewer tangles? And is she using a good conditioner and letting it sit while she washes her body? |
Anonymous
| Use Leave-In conditioner spray. Any brand. It works wonders on my 5 y.o.'s curly hair. And some of the crying is habit and attention-seeking, at least in the case of our 2 girls. |
Anonymous
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It's the days between shampooing that are the real problem, specifically the bedhead in the morning. All my girls brush their own hair but they do the bare minimum and look awful if I don't follow-up. Now that it's winter they all want to grow their hair long so the tangles are getting worse. I'm willing to make them scream but when will they out grow this? Please someone say 10 years old.
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Anonymous
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mine stopped age 5ish, however, i told her to stop
i am as gentle as possible, and she is allowed to say, "ow," but there is no whining or overdramatized crying allowed now at age 7, she does the first pass and i finish her up and most days she gets the whole job done well and is just thrilled with herself when i tell her she did a great job |
Anonymous
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maybe she should be washing her hair every night then brush it out after spraying on leave in conditioner.
If she is a screamer at 9 then she will be at 10. I say chop it off. If she cant brush her hair at 9 so it looks decent not putting it up or anything but brushing it all out maybe she is mature enough to decide to have long hair or not. |
Anonymous
| sorry maybe she is not mature enough |
Anonymous
| My threat used to be to cut DD's hair short like ____ (whichever friend whose mom most recently had her hair chopped in a practical but uuuugly bowl with bangs) if the combing was too traumatic to bear. DD has always been very proud of her hair and only needed infrequent reminders that this was the price of beauty. |
Anonymous
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DD is African American, 6. She cries. I wet it and it helps.
This thread is interesting. I will have her read it to let her know she is not alone. I cut it last year, and she has not forgiven me. I told her that if she cries too much, I might have to cut it again. That works. |
Anonymous
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My daughter is biracial. She cries and it is a battle to do her hair. I wash her hair on Sundays, add a hair cream and braid it. If only she would leave the braids in!
I will try the leave-in conditioner someone mentioned. |
Anonymous
That is the issue. They take the braids out and then wonder why it hurts to comb it. I beg my dd to leave them in, but I think she wants it loose like her friends. |
Anonymous
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I worked as a nanny they had two little girls that were biracial There hair was washed everyother day and I used a spray in conditioner it was actually marketed for biracial kids. Great stuff. I would have to say those two were the easiest to do their hair.
Now I am white you dont know how many screaming little while girls I have done their hair. One parent said to me if she screams just go chop it off. |
Anonymous
| OP here - on vacation in the humid south, at a home that has soft water. My girls hair has never been easier to brush. It is amazing. |