I’ve never been so jealous in my life

[Anonymous]

DH has a coworker who is a lesbian.

She gave birth a couple months ago and just came back to work. Her wife induced lactation so they both nurse. Four boobs for one baby. I would have killed for two more boobs when DC were of nursing age.

Her wife stays at home and she pumps to keep up supply but plans on quitting at 6 months and letting her wife nurse till one year. They alternate nights for getting up to nurse and I almost cried from jealousy. Also apparently men can lactate too if they do the protocol correctly (hormones and pumping for like months on end). I told DH he failed me.

[Anonymous]

Formula exists.

[Anonymous]

Of all things to be jealous of? Jesus, the overbearing La Leche types must be so proud of themselves for inducing all of this guilt and anxiety in new moms.

I can happily go to my grave without ever seeing my DH lactate. OMFG.

[Anonymous]

OP, you’ve gone off your rocker if you cherish breastmilk so much you want your DH to lactate. From your writing your child isn’t even a baby anymore. There are better things to be jealous about. At this point I would seek therapy for lingering and unwarranted issues over providing your child with breastmilk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of all things to be jealous of? Jesus, the overbearing La Leche types must be so proud of themselves for inducing all of this guilt and anxiety in new moms.

I can happily go to my grave without ever seeing my DH lactate. OMFG.

Oh, calm down.

We chose to BF for various reasons and it would have been nice to share the burden.

[Anonymous]

DP here.
I loved to breastfeed. The first month or so was very very hard with my firstborn but I loved my time with my babies when they were nursing., I nursed them for 3 years each. Well, the last year was mainly a comfort feeding at night and in the morning. DH thought that I walked on water because of that. I was very pampered by my DH and he was the one who did the diapers, rocking them to sleep and burping them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you’ve gone off your rocker if you cherish breastmilk so much you want your DH to lactate. From your writing your child isn’t even a baby anymore. There are better things to be jealous about. At this point I would seek therapy for lingering and unwarranted issues over providing your child with breastmilk.

This. Fed is best. If you wanted your dh to feed your child, formula from a bottle is a fine choice. Frankly, I’d find it preferable to some mystery milk that a dude on hormones would produce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of all things to be jealous of? Jesus, the overbearing La Leche types must be so proud of themselves for inducing all of this guilt and anxiety in new moms.

I can happily go to my grave without ever seeing my DH lactate. OMFG.

Oh, calm down.

We chose to BF for various reasons and it would have been nice to share the burden.

I'm sure she was joking about ManLactation.

Honestly though, this nuclear family BS is so tricky. When we were in traditional societies there would have been many lactating moms around to help out with the babies. Your auntie or even your own mother could have shared the burden. But in this stupid society we have that we are so cut off from our extended family we have exhausted moms who are expected to Mother like they have no job and Work like they have no kids. Even if you can Stay at home it's still exhausting and isolating.

I feel you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Gay couples have a more equitable distribution of household labor, including childcare. So there's good reason for us ladies married to men to be jealous.

https://www.nbcnews.com/business/consumer/division-labor-same-sex-couples-more-likely-share-chores-study-n369921

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you’ve gone off your rocker if you cherish breastmilk so much you want your DH to lactate. From your writing your child isn’t even a baby anymore. There are better things to be jealous about. At this point I would seek therapy for lingering and unwarranted issues over providing your child with breastmilk.

This. Fed is best. If you wanted your dh to feed your child, formula from a bottle is a fine choice. Frankly, I’d find it preferable to some mystery milk that a dude on hormones would produce.

I know OP was joking, but I agree. I even find women inducing lactation to be squicky. Formula seems much more healthy!

[Anonymous]

I am actually sure OP was not joking about her husband inducing lactation. Unfortunately I have heard similar sentiments from other people.

[Anonymous]

You sure do feel strongly about this, OP. Time for 5 minutes of daily gratitude about the good things in YOUR life.

[Anonymous]

Just get some formula. Geez.

[Anonymous]

I wish men could grow and birth the babies, too

My body really hated pregnancy

[Anonymous]

I’m sure you would love to experience the bigotry and hatred a lesbian couple goes through. Honestly if this is what you are jealous of, just formula feed. I personally feel breastfeeding furthers gender inequality because it makes feeding the baby the sole responsibility of the mother.