I’ve never been so jealous in my life

[Anonymous]

Wouldn’t the added hormones be bad for the baby?

Lesbian couples have very high breakup rates (relative to gay men and heterosexuals), and the custody battles seem to be even worse. Not an easy way out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, I’m pretty sure this post was a joke (or tongue in cheek at least). Calm down.

Seriously. What is going on in this thread?

[Anonymous]

This is the weirdest Thing to be Jealous of ever. You didn't have to breastfeed. That was a choice you made. You didn't have to make yourself miserable and not have help from your husband.

FYI I formula fed both my children from day 1 with zero guilt. Nobody cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It isnt all that simple Op.

Forced lactation is very difficult to achieve and even harder to reach a level that is not only adequate, but sustainable.

My friend attempted forced lactation after adopting a newborn. She spent a ton of money on the hormone therapy, LCs coming to her house
pumping gear, precious time, baby started to lose weight, etc.
She was super emotional and lashed out at her DH often which added the extra stress to what should've been a happy time.
She eventually opted for formula. It was a win-win all around.

So, no, Op, dont even waste your energy of even 1 pang of jealousy.

Yeah, to each their own, but this sounds like something out of Gilead to me. There are healthy options to feed, I can't imagine going through the level of medical intervention necessary to achieve this. It's no longer the "natural" option if you have to pump yourself full of hormones and torture yourself and potentially a baby to achieve it. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has a coworker who is a lesbian.

She gave birth a couple months ago and just came back to work. Her wife induced lactation so they both nurse. Four boobs for one baby. I would have killed for two more boobs when DC were of nursing age.

Her wife stays at home and she pumps to keep up supply but plans on quitting at 6 months and letting her wife nurse till one year. They alternate nights for getting up to nurse and I almost cried from jealousy. Also apparently men can lactate too if they do the protocol correctly (hormones and pumping for like months on end). I told DH he failed me.

All those hormones the other one took will give her cancer down the road. Remember Elizabeth Edwards? There are severe consequences for trying to fool mother nature!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of all things to be jealous of? Jesus, the overbearing La Leche types must be so proud of themselves for inducing all of this guilt and anxiety in new moms.

I can happily go to my grave without ever seeing my DH lactate. OMFG.

Oh, calm down.

We chose to BF for various reasons and it would have been nice to share the burden.

If it was a burden then you should not have nursed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of all things to be jealous of? Jesus, the overbearing La Leche types must be so proud of themselves for inducing all of this guilt and anxiety in new moms.

I can happily go to my grave without ever seeing my DH lactate. OMFG.

Oh, calm down.

We chose to BF for various reasons and it would have been nice to share the burden.

I'm sure she was joking about ManLactation.

Honestly though, this nuclear family BS is so tricky. When we were in traditional societies there would have been many lactating moms around to help out with the babies. Your auntie or even your own mother could have shared the burden. But in this stupid society we have that we are so cut off from our extended family we have exhausted moms who are expected to Mother like they have no job and Work like they have no kids. Even if you can Stay at home it's still exhausting and isolating.

I feel you, OP.

What? You chose to move away from family though I doubt your auntie or mother would have nursed your baby! If you can't live on salary of your spouse then you are living beyond your means. Stop blaming society for your poor choices,!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have totally been a wetnurse after my kid weaned. Could eat anything and lost weight from all the calories out!

YOU, my dear, are the person to be jealous of! ROFLMAO!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t the added hormones be bad for the baby?

Lesbian couples have very high breakup rates (relative to gay men and heterosexuals), and the custody battles seem to be even worse. Not an easy way out.

Says who?

[Anonymous]

My SIL and her wife considered doing this, and I would not be jealous - it's extremely difficult to get the non-maternal woman to start to lactate. She has to be on a rigorous and unrelenting pumping schedule, it messes with her hormones, if she misses a single feed she can dry right up, etc.

Not as easy as it sound!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH has a coworker who is a lesbian.

She gave birth a couple months ago and just came back to work. Her wife induced lactation so they both nurse. Four boobs for one baby. I would have killed for two more boobs when DC were of nursing age.

Her wife stays at home and she pumps to keep up supply but plans on quitting at 6 months and letting her wife nurse till one year. They alternate nights for getting up to nurse and I almost cried from jealousy. Also apparently men can lactate too if they do the protocol correctly (hormones and pumping for like months on end). I told DH he failed me.

All those hormones the other one took will give her cancer down the road. Remember Elizabeth Edwards? There are severe consequences for trying to fool mother nature!

Calm down, dude. The medication isn't "hormones"...its a Dopamine antagonist. It stimulates the release of your own hormone- Prolactin. This does not cause cancer. The medication is dangerous for other reasons like PP mentioned (esp heart disease) but please know what you are talking about before scare mongering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of all things to be jealous of? Jesus, the overbearing La Leche types must be so proud of themselves for inducing all of this guilt and anxiety in new moms.

I can happily go to my grave without ever seeing my DH lactate. OMFG.

Oh, calm down.

We chose to BF for various reasons and it would have been nice to share the burden.

I'm sure she was joking about ManLactation.

Honestly though, this nuclear family BS is so tricky. When we were in traditional societies there would have been many lactating moms around to help out with the babies. Your auntie or even your own mother could have shared the burden. But in this stupid society we have that we are so cut off from our extended family we have exhausted moms who are expected to Mother like they have no job and Work like they have no kids. Even if you can Stay at home it's still exhausting and isolating.

I feel you, OP.

What? You chose to move away from family though I doubt your auntie or mother would have nursed your baby! If you can't live on salary of your spouse then you are living beyond your means. Stop blaming society for your poor choices,!

I was talking about traditional societies like in the Stone Age.

And for the record- Real Wages are stagnant. This ain't the 1950s anymore, lady. And for the record- we could live off my husband's salary if it weren't for my student loans. Or should I just not have bothered to be educated?

[Anonymous]

I've been telling everyone for years I need a wife. Husbands are so overrated.

Singed,

A hetero woman

[Anonymous]

Curious and speculating that maybe the mom who didn't give birth had given birth previously (and relatively recently) and had good supply so it was easier to get her mammary glands going again. I'm thinking of those women on here saying they can still squeeze milk out 6+ months after weening.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, I’m pretty sure this post was a joke (or tongue in cheek at least). Calm down.

Seriously. What is going on in this thread?

I agree. Just like it’s a common joke among working women that it would be nice to have a SAH wife like some of our coworkers do.