Divorce without kids

[Anonymous]

I am thinking about divorce and how I can get out of this situation without a lot of damage for both of us.
We don’t have kids. I am 36 yo and always dreamed about having kids one day. My husband is 41 and always wanted to work on his career and pay his 100k+ debit he had accumulated before we got married (that I was not aware of). We have been married for 10 years. I have worked as a nanny and preschool teacher. This was and is my way of making a little bit of money and being around children. He told me a while ago I needed to work in a real job, so I decided to work part time and go back to school. He makes 135k and I make 26k working part time. We don’t have kids. He is addicted to drugs, has a big problem with alcohol and this is destroying me. I was hoping things would get better and it got worse. I am the same OP from the thread about reporting the husband because of the adderral abuse. I am afraid for my future, I didn’t focus on me, I never made enough money to pay for school. I have been taking one class here and one class there and paying it by myself but I feel so depressed, old, alone. I left my family, my friends, my college half finished in my home country, and now I feel like I have wasted years of my life just running after the wind. I just feel so lost because I barely could pay for a consultation with a lawyer. I don’t want to get as much as I can from him. I love him and eat the best for him, but I feel like he should at least help me during this transition (while I get out of his condo and find a cheap room to rent). I wanted to go back to my country right away, but I left my country and didn’t finish my degree there, and for that I feel so terrible because my dad paid thousands for something that I didn’t achieve. I wanted at least finish my associates degree here before going back. Just so I don’t feel more loser than I already am. And yes, I will start taking Zoloft and I feel like I’m drowning.

[Anonymous]

What is your immigration status? I would consult with an immigration lawyer first before making any decisions. In addition you need a REAL job now. Start getting out there so you can support yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your immigration status? I would consult with an immigration lawyer first before making any decisions. In addition you need a REAL job now. Start getting out there so you can support yourself.

American citizen

[Anonymous]

Yes, divorce him and get a job as a nanny. You can make at least $40k.

[Anonymous]

Divorce
Don't expect help in any way from him - that's not rational
Stop with the regret

[Anonymous]

Is your Dad still alive? If yes, do you have a decent relationship? If yes, contact him and hopefully he will do what many fathers will do for their daughters which is help them. You may not have been an ideal daughter but you are his daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your Dad still alive? If yes, do you have a decent relationship? If yes, contact him and hopefully he will do what many fathers will do for their daughters which is help them. You may not have been an ideal daughter but you are his daughter.

Um, why just a father?

[Anonymous]

GTFO. You can make decent money as a full time nanny and get a cute little apartment-maybe even get a roommate for company and to share expenses. Drug and alcohol issues seldom go away. Just move on and consider yourself lucky that you don’t have kids with him! Save up a little and then think about going back to your country.