Naming baby same name as an exes ex

[Anonymous]

Could you give your baby the same name as your exes ex? She was the reason him and I broke up. But DH and I both love the name and it's similar to a sports team we both love who may win the WS....anyways, a lot of people have reasons they say no to a name - my friends kid, my cousins son, I hated this girl in high school with that name etc. Did anyone end up naming their child the same name as someone they despise but not let it bother them after some time?

[Anonymous]

So before you were married, you dated John. And before you dated John, he dated Astra.

And now you and your husband are having a little girl, and you love the name Astra, but you are thinking you can't name your daughter Astra?

FFS, OP. That's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

"him and I" = we.

Name your baby whatever you want.

[Anonymous]

No. DH and I both had short lists of awful people and those names were off the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"him and I" = we.

Name your baby whatever you want.

It's "he and I," not "him and I."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So before you were married, you dated John. And before you dated John, he dated Astra.

And now you and your husband are having a little girl, and you love the name Astra, but you are thinking you can't name your daughter Astra?

FFS, OP. That's ridiculous.

So there's NO names on your list that you automatically veto because it reminds you of someone from your past or present that you don't like? That's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"him and I" = we.

Name your baby whatever you want.

It's "he and I," not "him and I."

Clearly. But that’s not what OP wrote.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So before you were married, you dated John. And before you dated John, he dated Astra.

And now you and your husband are having a little girl, and you love the name Astra, but you are thinking you can't name your daughter Astra?

FFS, OP. That's ridiculous.

So there's NO names on your list that you automatically veto because it reminds you of someone from your past or present that you don't like? That's ridiculous.

She said she loves the name.

Also, it's ridiculous that I don't let people who I haven't seen or interacted with, that have had no impact on my current relationship, have an impact on my children's names? You're saying that I *should* let these kind of marginal figures in my life (and a high-school ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend is pretty much the definition of marginal) influence my children's names? That is a *better* way to go through life?

You seem well adjusted.

[Anonymous]

FWIW, I don't really think Nats is really such a hot name for a little girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So before you were married, you dated John. And before you dated John, he dated Astra.

And now you and your husband are having a little girl, and you love the name Astra, but you are thinking you can't name your daughter Astra?

FFS, OP. That's ridiculous.

I think it's more like while she dated John Astra interfered in the relationship and eventually caused the breakup

[Anonymous]

I vetoed a ton of names because they had negative associations for me but I have to say that of you like the name and are willing to use it I think your kid will very very quickly become the primary/only association for that name for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So before you were married, you dated John. And before you dated John, he dated Astra.

And now you and your husband are having a little girl, and you love the name Astra, but you are thinking you can't name your daughter Astra?

FFS, OP. That's ridiculous.

I think it's more like while she dated John Astra interfered in the relationship and eventually caused the breakup

Well then Astra is partly responsible for OP and her DH getting together. A blessing in disguise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So before you were married, you dated John. And before you dated John, he dated Astra.

And now you and your husband are having a little girl, and you love the name Astra, but you are thinking you can't name your daughter Astra?

FFS, OP. That's ridiculous.

So there's NO names on your list that you automatically veto because it reminds you of someone from your past or present that you don't like? That's ridiculous.

She said she loves the name.

Also, it's ridiculous that I don't let people who I haven't seen or interacted with, that have had no impact on my current relationship, have an impact on my children's names? You're saying that I *should* let these kind of marginal figures in my life (and a high-school ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend is pretty much the definition of marginal) influence my children's names? That is a *better* way to go through life?

You seem well adjusted.

Naw, my in laws wanted to name their son after a deceased family member, Donald and vetoed it because of Trump. This is EXACTLY what you're describing. Would you name your son Donald????

Who said anything about a high-school ex bf? They could have dated for YEARS or been engaged or married.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we did this. Never gave it a second thought. Different scenario but if it doesn’t bother you then go for it. Maybe you can alter the name in some way but keep the essence

[Anonymous]

Nats: Natalie

Astrid: Astros

Houston

Washington

All ugly