Didn’t miss DH while he was away?

[Anonymous]

My DH was on a 10 trip for work, this is the first time we’ve been separated for that long in possibly 20 years.
While he was gone I took care of our children and went about my normal work; although it was different everything ran smoothly and I was relaxed and happy.

While he was away I didn’t miss him or wish that he was there, we spoke and texted a few times a day while he was away so it was really no different than any other day except that he wasn’t at home at night. Now that he’s home the house is a little more tense and I feel a little edgy. We haven’t “bonded“ since his return because I have the tail end of a yeast infection going on so maybe that’s part of it.

All in all we have a good relationship but things are different over the past year or two, we don’t fight but our tempers to flare much faster than before.

We need to get this back on track and I have a few ideas but I was just looking for a check in here.

Has anyone else really not missed their long-term partner? Is this just because we are so deep into a relationship there’s no really missing someone anymore?
After 23 years the white hot passion isn’t there anymore but I really was not expecting this.

[Anonymous]

Dont worry. You arent alone. He didn't miss you either

[Anonymous]

This is why people get divorced. Pretty soon you’ll be looking forward to his trips and having a nice peaceful house to yourself. You’re going to get tired of pretending life is better with him.

[Anonymous]

"tail end of a yeast infection" that's funny!

[Anonymous]

I don't really miss my husband when he's gone. You're not alone.

[Anonymous]

Yeast infection. You nasty

[Anonymous]

My husband travels for work constantly. I don't miss him while he's gone because I'm busy working and caring for our small kids and our home. But I'm always glad he's back. Are you glad to see him?

[Anonymous]

My husband travels a good amount and if he's gone 2-3 mights I'm fine because with my kids I stay busy, have an early dinner, get them to bed early and then just veg out. But if he's gone longer than that I really start to miss him and I know my kids do. Mini-breaks are a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeast infection. You nasty

Are you 12?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband travels for work constantly. I don't miss him while he's gone because I'm busy working and caring for our small kids and our home. But I'm always glad he's back. Are you glad to see him?

Yes! Very glad to see him, just wasn’t dying to see him like the last time we were apart (which was 15 years ago). I was super busy while he was away at work and home so maybe that’s part of it.

[Anonymous]

It’s sad for your kids, did you consider how they might feel not seeing their dad for that long?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband travels for work constantly. I don't miss him while he's gone because I'm busy working and caring for our small kids and our home. But I'm always glad he's back. Are you glad to see him?

Yes! Very glad to see him, just wasn’t dying to see him like the last time we were apart (which was 15 years ago). I was super busy while he was away at work and home so maybe that’s part of it.

NP then I'd say this is the sign of a healthy marriage. My husband also travels a lot and I do just fine in his absence. I enjoy my girlie movies and quality time with my kids and am happy to see him when he's back. No problem at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s sad for your kids, did you consider how they might feel not seeing their dad for that long?

Not OP but kids do just fine when it comes to work trips when they have a stable and loving parent managing the homefront. My dad was deployed six months to a year at a time (military), and we all managed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s sad for your kids, did you consider how they might feel not seeing their dad for that long?

Not OP but kids do just fine when it comes to work trips when they have a stable and loving parent managing the homefront. My dad was deployed six months to a year at a time (military), and we all managed.

I’m glad you all managed just fine, it’s oretty common knowledge that not all kids do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s sad for your kids, did you consider how they might feel not seeing their dad for that long?

Not OP but kids do just fine when it comes to work trips when they have a stable and loving parent managing the homefront. My dad was deployed six months to a year at a time (military), and we all managed.

I’m glad you all managed just fine, it’s oretty common knowledge that not all kids do.

It is not common knowledge that kids can't manage a ten day separation from a working parent with the other parent staying behind. That is the sign of a child that has a worrisome lack of resiliency.