Tell on nanny for not making kid wear helmet

[Anonymous]

My kid is friends with this other kindergartener. I am friendly with the parents but we're not friends. Should I tell them that I saw their kid riding a bike to school without a helmet? The nanny was walking/jogging along the kid. On one hand, I'm inclined to let it go. On the other hand, I would have a helmet rule for my kid and I'm sure they do too.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It could be that the parents are clueless themselves, but safety concerns, especially ones about kids, are never areas where you can MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Not all parents care about helmets. I kind of think they are overkill for little kids. Necessary for those of us that ride bike trails. Since you don’t really know what the parents think, telling the screws everyone involved. You judge the parents if they dont agree with you. Nanny might get fired either because you are right or because she made them look bad. And you and your family lost a potential friend.

So where is the good you are trying to do?

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. Yes, tell the parents.

[Anonymous]

Hell, yes I’d tell the parents.

[Anonymous]

Is this done all the time or is it possible they forgot? I would tell if this was something I’ve seen more than once. I know a few times I’ve been watching my kids ride bikes around our cul-de-sac with the neighbors and didn’t notice they weren’t wearing helmets until I saw the neighbors wearing theirs. It doesn’t happen all the time but it has slipped my mind a few times and then I can’t believe I didn’t notice.

[Anonymous]

Tell the parent's.

[Anonymous]

My kindergartener has never worn a helmet.. MYOB. Not everyone parents the way you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this done all the time or is it possible they forgot? I would tell if this was something I’ve seen more than once. I know a few times I’ve been watching my kids ride bikes around our cul-de-sac with the neighbors and didn’t notice they weren’t wearing helmets until I saw the neighbors wearing theirs. It doesn’t happen all the time but it has slipped my mind a few times and then I can’t believe I didn’t notice.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this done all the time or is it possible they forgot? I would tell if this was something I’ve seen more than once. I know a few times I’ve been watching my kids ride bikes around our cul-de-sac with the neighbors and didn’t notice they weren’t wearing helmets until I saw the neighbors wearing theirs. It doesn’t happen all the time but it has slipped my mind a few times and then I can’t believe I didn’t notice.

Then you're not doing it right. No helmet, no bike. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all parents care about helmets. I kind of think they are overkill for little kids. Necessary for those of us that ride bike trails. Since you don’t really know what the parents think, telling the screws everyone involved. You judge the parents if they dont agree with you. Nanny might get fired either because you are right or because she made them look bad. And you and your family lost a potential friend.

So where is the good you are trying to do?

Because all the trouble in the world is worth defending kids.

[Anonymous]

I thought this was going to be riding around the cul de sac or something and was prepared to say myob. But to school def tell them. That's gotta include some fairly high traffic locales

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kindergartener has never worn a helmet.. MYOB. Not everyone parents the way you do.

So then you wouldn’t mind if someone told you they saw him riding without a helmet. I assume this is something you’re proud of.

Regardless, it’s information for the parent to decide what to do with.

[Anonymous]

Why not say something to the nanny? If the parents don’t require a helmet, she can tell you, but you don’t have to worry about offending a parent who may not use a helmet and find your comment off-putting. If the kid is supposed to be wearing a helmet, the nanny will realize people have noticed the kid isn’t wearing it and might say something to her employer if she doesn’t start enforcing the rule. Then, if you see it again, you say something to the parents.

[Anonymous]

As a parent, I'd definitely want to be told.