How often do you get together with local siblings?

[Anonymous]

Just curious, if you have a sibling (or siblings) who live locally, how often do you get together?

My sister thinks we should get together every weekend at least once. That is just too much for me - I love her kids but she makes me crazy, and once a month feels about right to me. She is a very negative person and typically spends a good chunk of time complaining about something. The reality is that I just don’t enjoy her company. DH and I have lots of activities with our kids (sports, etc) so we don’t prioritize finding time to see my sister and her family every weekend, which makes her mad.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes multiple times per week, sometimes not for months. No set schedule, we just lead our lives, and if it works out to get together, great, if not because we or she/they are busy, that's great to.

[Anonymous]

I go over to his house almost once a week, but it's to build/maintain a relationship with my niece. Sometimes (actually more than half the time) I leave before my brother's even gotten home from work.

Generally once a month we make a plan to do something together. But to be honest, I don't really feel the need to see him - we talk for about an hour once a week generally. I'm just there to hang out with the niece.

[Anonymous]

Not enough! I have the best time with them. We are not close in age and our kids are all different ages. Probably once every couple of months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes multiple times per week, sometimes not for months. No set schedule, we just lead our lives, and if it works out to get together, great, if not because we or she/they are busy, that's great to.

+1, same here. Summer is easier because we are both teachers so we can get the kids together on a weekday. My DC is 10 and her kids are much younger. Her kids think my DC is amazing so sometimes she’ll take DC along on their outings. DC helps entertain her 5 year old so she can keep both eyes on her two year old who is a runner.

[Anonymous]

Hardly ever. Sibling works a lot and spouse doesn't really try so we can go months without talking or seeing each other. Not trying to blame spouse but, they are very unaccommodating so I've given up. When we are together they seem to have a good time and like us though. It is what it is. Wish I saw nephews more.

Every weekend would be too much but, once a month would be nice.

[Anonymous]

I would say once or twice a month most months. Mostly at my parents’ house. Despite living locally, it’s still far enough to require some effort to get together. We live right near my parents so I probably see sibling 2/3 of the times he comes to see my parents.

[Anonymous]

Not often. We live in DC. My DH's sister and her family lives in Lorton. Our priorities are different (they have older kids and only have the kids 50% of the time, while we're firmly in the toddler years 24/7; we love sports, they do not; and so on). They're a bit challenging to deal with generally. We see them more frequently when my FIL is in town.

[Anonymous]

Rarely, SIL always says they are "busy" so we have stopped trying. Maybe three times a year.

[Anonymous]

Once a month or once every two months. I wish it were more, but between us we have four kids between the ages of 5-10 and everyone has some different activity going on all the time.

[Anonymous]

We see one sibling and family multiple times a week. We see another sibling and family at Christmas. Both siblings and families lives equidistant to us. The first sibling is a warm and generous person with delightful kids and a helpful, charming spouse. The second sibling and spouse are domineering narcissists who are constantly complaining about everything and their children are a being raised to not respect anyone or anything.

[Anonymous]

The three of us live about 45-1hr apart and we see each other once a month or so. We are great friends and our spouses and kids get along well so it’s always fun.

[Anonymous]

Weekly with the one that’s married with kids. It’s a planned play date hat works for everyone involved so we do it, but occasIonally there are conflicts. The other one we see but not quite so regularly.

[Anonymous]

Weekly when you don't really like the person sounds like torture. I don't see my favorite local friends that much! I would think monthly or even every other month would be fine.

Personally, I have a sister in Baltimore who I adore (so local-ish) and we probably go see her 2-3 times a year, she comes to us 2-3 times a year, and we are together at other family events another 2-3 times a year, so all together every month or two, although it certainly ebbs and flows based on schedules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious, if you have a sibling (or siblings) who live locally, how often do you get together?

My sister thinks we should get together every weekend at least once. That is just too much for me - I love her kids but she makes me crazy, and once a month feels about right to me. She is a very negative person and typically spends a good chunk of time complaining about something. The reality is that I just don’t enjoy her company. DH and I have lots of activities with our kids (sports, etc) so we don’t prioritize finding time to see my sister and her family every weekend, which makes her mad.

Every weekend? No way. Maybe once a month but probably once every three months.