Alone time
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Anonymous
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I realized today that I haven't had a weekend alone in the house for years. I've gone on business trips, so I've definitely had time apart from the kids (2 & 5). But that travel isn't relaxing, and I never come back feeling rested.
It got me thinking that it would be nice to do the following: 1 trip alone with the husband a year 1 overnight with each of my kids separately to get good 1:1 time 1 overnight where my husband takes the kids somewhere and I get a weekend at home alone 1 overnight where I take the kids somewhere and he gets a weekend at home alone I want to formalize it otherwise we won't plan for it and it won't happen. Anyone do something similar to this? |
Anonymous
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I like your first two ideas but personally I don’t need a weekend home alone without my husband/family or to take my kids somewhere without him. I love traveling as a family even though it can be exhausting.
What I would really love is a chunk of time (like 5-6 hours) home alone on a weekend day. That sounds amazing!! |
Anonymous
| No. I will have a Sunday where I stay in bed all day reading magazines and sleeping and Netflixing. DH will take the kids out for the day. |
Anonymous
| We both have time at home alone without the kids and trips away while the other stays home with the kids, but we don't schedule it, it's more something that just organically happens. If it didn't happen, I would schedule it, so give it a try! I also happen to take the kids away for a weekend more than my husband does, but that's because my best friend's husband travels a lot and works weekends so it's easy for me to take my kids there (she lives four hours away). He does camping and other trips with other dads and kids but doesn't have any friends' houses he could take the kids to. He could take them to his parents' house but he doesn't really want to spend time with them so we have them visit us instead. And we all go to visit my family on the west coast. I love my weekends alone. It's probably only twice a year, which is really the perfect frequency because I never feel guilty about it and I have time to look forward to it. |
Anonymous
| Alone time is so important! I personally don’t need to take my kids out of town alone. A nice solo dinner out or activity satisfies that, for me. But, weekend with spouse is wonderful idea. And a getaway for you sounds like a luxurious treat. Enjoy. |
Anonymous
That sounds like a great plan! For us personally with little kids, travel is SO much easier when we're tackling it together that I don't think we'd do the one-parent overnights until the kids are older, but you're inspiring me to think about planning full-day adventures with the kids 1 on 1 and one parent/two kids. |
Anonymous
Every year my husband goes away hiking with his buddies, and it’s seriously my favorite week. I make sure the kids are signed up for camp that week, and I take the week off. During the day, I do whatever I want. It’s bliss! After the kids go to bed (which has to be on time, because camp  ) I eat whatever I want for dinner, have wine and desert, Netflix, and the bed to myself. Just another idea.
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Anonymous
This sounds amazing. |
Anonymous
| No way! I travel a decent amount for business and yes it’s work but when i’m in my hotel room it’s peace and quiet and me time and I’m fine with that. The rest of the time I love being with my husband and my kids and all of the chaos and I signed up for that the day I got off birth control. |
Anonymous
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I think your idea is great as well as healthy. Dh often took DS Boy Scout camping and I enjoyed the time alone, listening to my 70s music, sleeping in and watching movies I wanted to see
Ignore the smother mothers. |