15mo with nanny... how to schedule the day?

[Anonymous]

second week with new nanny (previously had Grandma care). nanny is keen to go out and socialize at playground (30 min walk one way -- she doesn't have access to car during day). I'm worried if my 15mo is spending too much time in stroller and outside? especially if tomorrow is 95 degrees, or in winter time.
baby transitioning to 1 nap, loves to be outside with ball etc, but she doesn't seem content to play in the yard alone with him. she's with him 8-5 daily.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s great that she’s wants to walk that far to let your child be at the playground. It’s fine. Just make sure the stroller has adequate sun protection.

[Anonymous]

She probably has nanny friends at the park so she plans to just sit around and talk with her friends all day, while your kid roams barely supervised with the other kids. I’m a nanny and see this ALL THE TIME. There’s no reason a 15 month old needs to be at the park for hours on end. Maybe do a music class or story time at the library, invite play dates to the house so you can see what’s happening (nanny cams are key). Nanny can also do things like organise crafts to keep your child stimulated. A nature tray in the yard. So many things to do at home. No need to be sweating in a stroller or being paid to chat with her friends.

[Anonymous]

Too much time outside? Huh?

[Anonymous]

What else is within walking distance of your house? I would be bored being at home with a toddler all day 5 days a week too. I tend to go out in the morning then after nap i do things in the house or yard. She probably wants some adult stimulation during the day.

[Anonymous]

We had a nanny and a playground within 5 min and another about 30 min walk. Nanny took dd to one or the other every day. In a stroller and then walking partway. It was great for dd to be outside and they went early before the heat of the day. Eventually dd stopped liking the stroller so she walked the mile there and back most days when she was 2. Still a great walker. Granted the walk was in the shade. They were always home by lunch and nap.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever spent extended time alone at home with your toddler?

Every SAHM I know gets out in the mornings with their kids. Partly it’s because you need to get stuff done but a big reason is that toddlers get super cooped up being stuck at home all day. Mine would actually grab her shoes from the shoe rack and point to the front door saying “OUT!” My toddler behaved better, napped more consistently and all those good things when we went out every morning.

You are being nuts trying to prevent the nanny from walking to a playground.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny goes out with DS every single morning for a couple of hours. She has access to a car but prefers to walk - one storytime in 45 minutes each way and she does it twice a week. DS is 11 months and when Nanny asks him if he wants to go outside, he crawls fast to his stroller.

In short, socialization and “outside” are both great for young children. Your nanny is right and your concerns are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably has nanny friends at the park so she plans to just sit around and talk with her friends all day, while your kid roams barely supervised with the other kids. I’m a nanny and see this ALL THE TIME. There’s no reason a 15 month old needs to be at the park for hours on end. Maybe do a music class or story time at the library, invite play dates to the house so you can see what’s happening (nanny cams are key). Nanny can also do things like organise crafts to keep your child stimulated. A nature tray in the yard. So many things to do at home. No need to be sweating in a stroller or being paid to chat with her friends.

Just curious, how do you know the women you see are nannies and not grandmothers or mothers?

Racist much, PP?

[Anonymous]

A 15 month old needs to get out every day but half hour walk is plenty. Plus lots of games etc at home.

Your nanny wants to sit and relax and chat with her friends at the park.

- Mom of 3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What else is within walking distance of your house? I would be bored being at home with a toddler all day 5 days a week too. I tend to go out in the morning then after nap i do things in the house or yard. She probably wants some adult stimulation during the day.

OP here. There's another playground 10 minutes away but it's attached to an elementary school and meant for older kids. She doesn't have a driver's license (or car) which is why she can't take them anywhere else like library etc.
It makes sense she wants some adult stimulation but that's the nanny job! interface with kids! no??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What else is within walking distance of your house? I would be bored being at home with a toddler all day 5 days a week too. I tend to go out in the morning then after nap i do things in the house or yard. She probably wants some adult stimulation during the day.

OP here. There's another playground 10 minutes away but it's attached to an elementary school and meant for older kids. She doesn't have a driver's license (or car) which is why she can't take them anywhere else like library etc.
It makes sense she wants some adult stimulation but that's the nanny job! interface with kids! no??

A nanny down the street from me puts her kid in the stroller on the front porch and spends hours on her phone. All things considered I think walking to the park is better. I do think anyone would go nuts alone with a 15 month old, with no other interaction all day, though I’d be very emphatic about sun protection.

[Anonymous]

It is GOOD for your kid to be out and about in the world. Walking through the neighborhood, playing at the park, watching the world from the stroller even-these are all good things. Yes even when it’s hot, even when it’s cold.
As a SAHM I would have gone insane if I had stayed in my house and own yard all the time.

If you think the nanny is going to neglect your kid at the park because other adults are there...well, I just don’t get that. Wouldn’t it be just as easy to surf on her phone or whatever at your house and ignore the kid? Not necessary to be in public to to do a bad job. If you don’t trust her to walk to the park with your child, you probably shouldn’t trust her to have your kid ANYWHERE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What else is within walking distance of your house? I would be bored being at home with a toddler all day 5 days a week too. I tend to go out in the morning then after nap i do things in the house or yard. She probably wants some adult stimulation during the day.

OP here. There's another playground 10 minutes away but it's attached to an elementary school and meant for older kids. She doesn't have a driver's license (or car) which is why she can't take them anywhere else like library etc.
It makes sense she wants some adult stimulation but that's the nanny job! interface with kids! no??

You are missing the point, OP. Your CHILD needs the stimulation and fresh air. All kids should be outdoors as much as possible.

[Anonymous]

Are you foreign-born, OP?