Dating a guy with baby mama drama

[Anonymous]

I have been dating a guy for 2 months and it has the potential to get serious. There is one issue that keeps me from moving forward. His ex gf is always in the background. We can be on a date and she is calling. He thinks it's his child but it's her on the other end always wanting him to do something or needing something. She is using their child's cell phone to call him. He is good about cutting her off but this gives me a glimpse of what I will be dealing with if we become exclusive.

He said things have calmed down a lot since they broke up 3 years ago. He explained they did have a custody fight and the court ordered a 50/50 split in physical custody. He is listed as the residential parent and he has the final say on all major issues such as medical, education and sports. He said her bark is bigger than her bite and because of of how their custody order is structured she really has no say on what happens with their son and all she can do is complain. He also admitted that she has caused scenes in public before.

Do you think I should move forward? This is the first single father I have dated. I really like him a lot but I am not use to baby mama drama.

[Anonymous]

This is too much drama, sorry.

[Anonymous]

She is using their child's cell phone to call him. He is good about cutting her off

You really like him a lot? Break up with him if a phone call during a date is such a problem. Sounds like a responsible dad to me, though. That should go in the plus column.

[Anonymous]

Calls constantly when you're on dates to talk to him about things she wants him to do for her, AND causes scenes in public? Awesome!

Sorry OP but this sounds like signing up for a train wreck on purpose.

[Anonymous]

You have to ask DCUM for advice on this? Don't be desperate. You are crazy to date someone with this kind of baggage.

[Anonymous]

OP keep in mind that you’ve only been dating a couple of months - you’re still in the stage of a relationship where people are trying to make the best impression. So one thing to consider is that what you see now is the very best impression of how things will really be.

If you’ve only just known each other a few weeks and you’ve gotten this much of a glimpse, know that when everyone is comfortable enough to let their hair down, it’s going to be ten times worse than what you’ve seen now.

[Anonymous]

Next. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Run like the wind.

[Anonymous]

Red Flags galore! Bye, bye to him. Why would you even consider this? Find a man you can have all to yourself and have your own children. Amen!

[Anonymous]

You will be marrying that whole family. Even though they are not "together" they are a family: mom, dad, kid. Plus you. This will be the rest of your life. Is that what you want? Also, if you have kids, this will part of their family too.

Some people can accept that, others can't. Don't go forward unless you can. She and the kid are not going away.

[Anonymous]

I just hope he doesn’t ditch the kid when he realizes not many women will put up with this.

[Anonymous]

OH. HELLS. NO.

This will only get worse.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a decent guy, but if phone calls during a date bother you, you don't want to deal with the escalation of her behavior if you become serious. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it. This has nothing to do with him. The child will always be there, and the child's mother will always be there. If he's a good father, multiply by two.

There are other guys out there.

[Anonymous]

Run, OP. That woman and child will be I. Your lives for the rest of your life. Bad ex wife with no kids? Fine. Bad ex wife/girlfriend with kids? He’ll forever. She’ll be pulling crap at their child’s wedding.