Dating a guy with baby mama drama

[Anonymous]

Something is fishy. Tie-breaking authority isn’t so unusual, but it does not mean the other parent has “no say”. The fact he characterized it that way is a pink flag to me. I’d be suspicious that he uses his tie-breaking authority even in cases in which he could negotiate for a win-win.

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah, he sounds like a real winner. Definitely hitch your star to this wagon. What could go wrong?

[Anonymous]

Single mom here. I say have your fun but don't pursue any serious rship with this guy. I think he probably uses the crazy ex as a means of maintaining emotional distance and unavailability.

He shouldn't be answering calls from ANYONE during your dates. He likes the drama.

Watch yourself with this one OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP keep in mind that you’ve only been dating a couple of months - you’re still in the stage of a relationship where people are trying to make the best impression. So one thing to consider is that what you see now is the very best impression of how things will really be.

If you’ve only just known each other a few weeks and you’ve gotten this much of a glimpse, know that when everyone is comfortable enough to let their hair down, it’s going to be ten times worse than what you’ve seen now.

Oh yes. It’s going to be 100 times worse...

[Anonymous]

I’d say no and tell him why. He deserves to know how she’s screwing him over and that it’s costing him. Maybe he’ll use it to put better boundaries in place.

[Anonymous]

Run, OP. This is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d say no and tell him why. He deserves to know how she’s screwing him over and that it’s costing him. Maybe he’ll use it to put better boundaries in place.

Eh, we know the version he told OP. There’s a good possibility that he’s still sleeping with the XGF and isn’t interested in boundaries, but realizes he has to pretend he’s annoyed by the XGF calling. My cousin’s kids have a half-sibling three months older because of this crap.

[Anonymous]

Have to agree, OP. You're headed into a sh*tshow and you're not the star.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's a gaslighter.

He's told you a tremendous amount about the mother of his children, mostly negative things. This is the SAME woman who takes care of your boyfriends children, HIS children while HE is out on dates with you, rather than focusing on rearing them.

The attention will never be yours to steal. You will suffer for this if you go along with it.

[Anonymous]

And by the way, he is sleeping with the mother of his (multiple) children.

Yes he is.

[Anonymous]

It took my crazy ex-wife 5 years to calm down and begin to leave me alone. Now she just attacks me a couple of times a year.

I had several good women break it off with me because of how awful she was.

[Anonymous]

I would run from this one. I believe he is sleeping with her, otherwise there's no reason for her to keep calling.

Did this nitwit get a paternity test to make sure the kid is his. If not he's really dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d say no and tell him why. He deserves to know how she’s screwing him over and that it’s costing him. Maybe he’ll use it to put better boundaries in place.

Eh, we know the version he told OP. There’s a good possibility that he’s still sleeping with the XGF and isn’t interested in boundaries, but realizes he has to pretend he’s annoyed by the XGF calling. My cousin’s kids have a half-sibling three months older because of this crap.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

100% chance he’s still sleeping with her. If you don’t dump him, you’re really stupid and deserve the misery he will bring you.

[Anonymous]

But is he good in bed?