at the brink of re-contacting AP
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Anonymous
| I broke up with my AP of 1 year, about 2 months ago. I am married, he is divorced. I used to meet him on work trips, every other week or less often. The reasons to break up were: Guilt and thinking I was more emotionally invested in it than him (at some point, I suggested getting a divorce and partnering with him, but he didn't want to relocate to where I am). I miss talking to him, he was so much fun, I really enjoyed all my time with him a lot. I felt I was in love with him for most of the time. Now, I am seriously in need of this human interaction. DH never found out about this. AP behaved professionally at every stage, he said he misses me in one of our post-breakup talks. Should I contact him again? |
Anonymous
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In the words of lizzo...
'Cause he don't love you anymore So walk your fine ass out the door What you need is girlfriends. He doesn't love you ... get over it. You advertised as uncommitted and did the bait and switch to wanting to marry him... you f'd up. Get therapy. |
Anonymous
| You should get a divorce. As for your AP, the guy has made it clear your not a priority ... never contact him again. |
Anonymous
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Have you tried reconnecting with your DH? Would you want to?
I know the feeling, somewhat same situation although I didn't love my AP. I liked her, but it was mostly to fulfill the sex my wife didn't want with me. We broke it off, eventually but the urge to reconnect hits when my wife shuts down sexually for long periods. That you wanted to leave your DH is a red flag to me. |
Anonymous
why... so long at the OP can distinguish between a FWB relationship and an emotional relationship. contact, get your rocks off, have fun... just dont get emotional. |
Anonymous
| It’s not the answer. He doesn’t want a relationship - just six — and you want/need more. Why don’t you leave your marriage? |
Anonymous
| What's going on in your marriage that you can't find that intimacy with your husband? Not judging, just asking. |
Anonymous
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Instead of having an affair, why don't you book a special trip with your DH and reconnect with him? Tell him you feel you are not getting the connection you wish you had, and work on your marriage.
Do you have children? |
Anonymous
| I think you need to get divorced. I think you should only contact him if you are in the process of getting a divorce. You should not divorce thinking you’re going to be with him you should divorce because you honestly need a divorce. |
Anonymous
Clearly op can’t, hence the advice. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| Sounds like you want the ego strokes you got from your AP, and that’s what you miss. What you need is therapy to figure out why you go looking for that and why you think it’s ok to think only about yourself. |
Anonymous
| This is one of the better trolls because no real person is so dumb to write something that will be bludgeoned by 100% of the readers. |
Anonymous
well, there's nothing a bludgeoning going on here as much as the DCUM soft-glove approach to another female cheater. If OP was a man, the pitchforks would have been out in force. 
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Anonymous
| You're trash |