Going rate for wedding gift

[Anonymous]

What is the going rate for a wedding gift of a close family member? I know cash is king, but I just don’t know how much per person, plus a child.

[Anonymous]

It depends on so many faxes, there's really no going rate. Are they just starting out or are they already well established in their lives/careers? Do they have a registry? What is everybody else in the party doing? There's no set standard. I always call some key attendees and we settle on a "standardized" gift amount usually $250

[Anonymous]

I swear the same poster keeps asking this question in trying to convince everyone there is a rule for wedding gifts (and that it must only be cash and only something like $250 per head or whatever).

Just give what you are comfortable giving, whether cash or an actual gift. The last wedding I went to in the NY area, in Westchester County, was about 10 years ago and had plenty of people hauling physical gifts to the reception, not envelopes of cash.

[Anonymous]

Use the registry.

[Anonymous]

They have a child? What does that have to do with the gift cost?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have a child? What does that have to do with the gift cost?

Bringing as guest

[Anonymous]

Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .

If I'm only being invited to a wedding to help pay for it then don't invite me, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .

They don't. They can spend whatever they want. I live in Westchester and I've been to fancy rooftop Manhattan weddings and low-key river/ boat/ garden weddings. It's all the couple's choice, but it's also their choice to pay for it. I give the same gift regardless of what they might have spent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .

They also choose to have these things, or not. Their expense is not their guests' obligation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .

They don't. They can spend whatever they want. I live in Westchester and I've been to fancy rooftop Manhattan weddings and low-key river/ boat/ garden weddings. It's all the couple's choice, but it's also their choice to pay for it. I give the same gift regardless of what they might have spent.

I don’t. If I’m going to a low class wedding in the South where people wear jeans and t shorts I’d give $150. Maybe even $100. For a Manhattan wedding I wouldn’t give less than $500.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .

So what are you suggesting people give? How much should a couple give for a wedding that costs, say, $30,000?

You realize that the couple getting married are *choosing* how much to spend on the event, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .

They don't. They can spend whatever they want. I live in Westchester and I've been to fancy rooftop Manhattan weddings and low-key river/ boat/ garden weddings. It's all the couple's choice, but it's also their choice to pay for it. I give the same gift regardless of what they might have spent.

I don’t. If I’m going to a low class wedding in the South where people wear jeans and t shorts I’d give $150. Maybe even $100. For a Manhattan wedding I wouldn’t give less than $500.

How many people are in a position to go to both a "low class" Southern wedding and a fancy Manhattan wedding? Not many, I'll bet. And that you chose to pick "low class" South instead of, say, upstate NY tells me you haven't been to a low class wedding in the South and are making this up to try to justify your weird and narcissistic attitude towards wedding costs.

[Anonymous]

Couples often don’t choose or want the wedding. Let’s say an young Italian American Catholic couple marries and to please parents have most economical wedding possible at today’s prices and costs 40k. Both parents of bird and groom chip 10k each.

Now you are an out of town Rich aunt and uncle you attend the wedding of you godchild eat and drink like a king and give $150 a couple and get furious if thank you note does not come quick enough.

When a young couple does everything in power to do a nice enough wedding so guests will enjoy while pinching every penny and being cost conscious rich guests who purposely short change is not nice.

Crazy stupid expensive wedding yes not your issue but shorting a 25 year old bride on a budget wedding disgraceful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .

People had more cash to spend in 1998! Money is tight for many people these days. Health care expenses, education costs, rents and mortgages. If a guest gives $150, they’re being as generous as they can, and they should be thanked profusely.