Going rate for wedding gift

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Anonymous wrote:Weddings can be expensive which is why folks want cash. Folks only think of cost when they got married. For instance the average wedding in the NJ/NYC/Long Island area is now $62,000.

Venue is $28,0000, Dress $2,400 Ring $9,500, Photo/Video $7,000 are some big ticket items. This is going rate in big metro East Coast areas.

Nationwide in Fly-Over country the average wedding is now $33,400.

This is info from the Knot that just came out. High End weddings can hit $100,000.

I got married 21 years ago and it was cheaper, I am always amazed that folks go going to a wedding and giving $200 a couple. That is how much I got on average in 1998. Sometimes you get I am doing $150 a couple which is what my sister got when she married $30 years ago.

Of course you dont have to cover plate or anything. But a young couple starting out should not have to pay $300 a couple while the rich aunt and uncle give them $150 bucks as if it is a treat to have them.

And the prices above dont even factor in reheasal dinners, honeymoons, or breakfast next day for out of town guests. .



They don't. They can spend whatever they want. I live in Westchester and I've been to fancy rooftop Manhattan weddings and low-key river/ boat/ garden weddings. It's all the couple's choice, but it's also their choice to pay for it. I give the same gift regardless of what they might have spent.


I don’t. If I’m going to a low class wedding in the South where people wear jeans and t shorts I’d give $150. Maybe even $100. For a Manhattan wedding I wouldn’t give less than $500.


How many people are in a position to go to both a "low class" Southern wedding and a fancy Manhattan wedding? Not many, I'll bet. And that you chose to pick "low class" South instead of, say, upstate NY tells me you haven't been to a low class wedding in the South and are making this up to try to justify your weird and narcissistic attitude towards wedding costs.


NP. I am. I have tons of friends and relatives across a wide range of...life.
Anonymous
I don't care how much you spend on your wedding. That's your choice. I give $100/couple for acquaintance, $150/couple for friends, and $200 for close friends/family.

A wedding is not a fundraiser. It's a party, and you can spend as much or as little as you want. You wanted more money for your down payment? Could have saved that by not hiring a live band for 3 hours rather than money grubbing from relatives.
Anonymous
The gift amount I give depends on how close we are, how much money I've had to spend to attend your wedding, and how much I can afford. It has NOTHING to do with how much you have spent on the wedding. Stop trying to make rules for how much. And Frankly, I rather give more to the "poor" couple since they probably would appreciate the money more.
Anonymous
My bitchy cousin got her $25 buck check back in thank you note with a note saying basically no thanks.

She was an MBA making big bucks and stiffed her younger cousin on purpose cause she was still single.

She actually wrote on check I am doing $25 cause that is all your wedding worth and I got a crappy seat.

Anonymous
Oh. My. Gosh. I had maybe three guests who gave me gifts over $150. You’re just annoyed that you didn’t get the expensive swag you wanted.
Anonymous
We always give $100 each, so $200 as a couple. When we were married last year, I would say our close older family (aunts, uncles, very very close friends of parents) have $1000. Less close but still close family/friends of parents ages have $250-500.

Friends our age, surprisingly, gave very cheap gifts from the registry or in many cases nothing. Some of the better off ones gave $100. We didn’t really mind though, we are just happy they came. No one should expect to break even at their wedding, it’s an expense.

And hell NO should you decide how much to give depending on how fancy the wedding is! If anything give more to the inexpensive wedding because the couple Probably paid themselves, but at fancy weddings it’s usually covered by parents.
Anonymous
I had a very small, homemade wedding at my parents’ house because that was what we could afford and we did not want to go into debt for a wedding. I don’t feel the need to increase my gift amount based on how fancy the bride and groom decided they wanted to get.
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