if your child's friend was looking at porn on your iPad, what would you do?

[Anonymous]

My daughter had a few of her soccer teammates over for a sleepover last night. The girls are 13 and 14- incoming 8th graders. This morning, I opened up our family iPad, which was downstairs with the girls last night, and saw several porn sites in the browsing history. A lot of cartoon porn of Disney characters I asked my daughter what was up, and she was like "I don't know what that is mom, Lucy (teammate) was on it last night but I don't know what she was doing"...

Would you say something to her mother? Let it go?

[Anonymous]

They were ALL on it. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

I would send a note to the moms of all the kids that were there an explain exactly what you know (1) the girls had the IPad downstairs last night and according to the browsing history it appears at least some of them used it to view porn (2) suggest they may want to discuss porn with their girls if they haven't already (3) apologize for not having good parental controls on your devices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would send a note to the moms of all the kids that were there an explain exactly what you know (1) the girls had the IPad downstairs last night and according to the browsing history it appears at least some of them used it to view porn (2) suggest they may want to discuss porn with their girls if they haven't already (3) apologize for not having good parental controls on your devices.

This.

Just the facts.

No judgement.

Your daughter is lying to you. Don’t punish her for porn, punish for lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would send a note to the moms of all the kids that were there an explain exactly what you know (1) the girls had the IPad downstairs last night and according to the browsing history it appears at least some of them used it to view porn (2) suggest they may want to discuss porn with their girls if they haven't already (3) apologize for not having good parental controls on your devices.

+1

[Anonymous]

Your daughter was looking too. They all were.

I'd do what the other poster suggested - contact the other parents, tell what you know, and apologize. You might feel shocked and surprised that your daughter and her friends were doing this but this is still the only acceptable response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would send a note to the moms of all the kids that were there an explain exactly what you know (1) the girls had the IPad downstairs last night and according to the browsing history it appears at least some of them used it to view porn (2) suggest they may want to discuss porn with their girls if they haven't already (3) apologize for not having good parental controls on your devices.

This.

Just the facts.

No judgement.

Your daughter is lying to you. Don’t punish her for porn, punish for lying.

this will backfire. Unless you have clear evidence, do NOT do this.

[Anonymous]

Let me guess... Lucy isn’t your daughter’s best friend. Think about it.

[Anonymous]

I'm the only one who wouldn't do anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the only one who wouldn't do anything?

Yes. But no worries, tons of negligent parents out there.

[Anonymous]

I would be unhappy, and would send a factual email to all the parents (mothers and fathers) to let them know.

Also, I would not give them access to my devices again.

Furthermore, my own child would be suspect and she wouldn’t have sleepovers for some time. She is entirely old enough to monitor her guests and lay down the rules of the house.

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong with this? Do you have an explicit rule against looking at porn at your house? It’s not like it’s illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with this? Do you have an explicit rule against looking at porn at your house? It’s not like it’s illegal.

It sure is for kids under 18. Also, if you don't think porn is a problem, you need to wake up and realize the major internet porn problem that's going on. This isn't 1986 and a copy of playboy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would send a note to the moms of all the kids that were there an explain exactly what you know (1) the girls had the IPad downstairs last night and according to the browsing history it appears at least some of them used it to view porn (2) suggest they may want to discuss porn with their girls if they haven't already (3) apologize for not having good parental controls on your devices.

This.

Just the facts.

No judgement.

Your daughter is lying to you. Don’t punish her for porn, punish for lying.

this will backfire. Unless you have clear evidence, do NOT do this.

It won’t backfire.

You punish for por she will never share that she is having sex with her boyfriend.

You punish her for lying - not trusting you, you open the door for honesty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with this? Do you have an explicit rule against looking at porn at your house? It’s not like it’s illegal.

What a pervert!