Mommy what color am I?

[Anonymous]

So I'm white and my husband is South Asian. He's brown. What do I say to my son? You're white and brown? Mixed? Brown?

[Anonymous]

Mixed isn’t a color. What color is his skin? Kids are literal. Answer him.

[Anonymous]

You dig further to find out where the question is coming from. White, mixed and brown relate to race. The child is probably looking for a word to describe an exact shade. He is learning colors and needs language to use.

That's not to say you shouldn't talk about race too. As discussed in Nurture Shock. https://www.newsweek.com/even-babies-discriminate-nurtureshock-excerpt-79233

[Anonymous]

Omg why not just answer the question?

My son’s eyes are blue. If he asks what color they are, should I delve into his German roots? I answer “blue” and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mixed isn’t a color. What color is his skin? Kids are literal. Answer him.

He's light brown. Most people would assume he's white or possibly a light skinned Latino. I'm very fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg why not just answer the question?

My son’s eyes are blue. If he asks what color they are, should I delve into his German roots? I answer “blue” and move on.

OP here. Omg why do you have to be such a bit**. Obviously the question is not the same as your sons eye's.

[Anonymous]

Tell him he is light brown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mixed isn’t a color. What color is his skin? Kids are literal. Answer him.

He's light brown. Most people would assume he's white or possibly a light skinned Latino. I'm very fair.

So you tell him he's light brown. If he asks more you can talk about how you're lighter and daddy's darker and he's in the middle.

[Anonymous]

I really like this book, and mixing paint as a way to explore the answer to this question:

[youtube] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=679Sw4IACAk [/youtube]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really like this book, and mixing paint as a way to explore the answer to this question:

[youtube] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=679Sw4IACAk [/youtube]

ooops

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=679Sw4IACAk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mixed isn’t a color. What color is his skin? Kids are literal. Answer him.

He's light brown. Most people would assume he's white or possibly a light skinned Latino. I'm very fair.

So you tell him he's light brown. If he asks more you can talk about how you're lighter and daddy's darker and he's in the middle.

This but also tell him his skin color is beautiful in case this came from school where someone was being a prick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mixed isn’t a color. What color is his skin? Kids are literal. Answer him.

He's light brown. Most people would assume he's white or possibly a light skinned Latino. I'm very fair.

Tell him he's a beautiful brown. Then explain why he is the color he is. At least, that's what my kids were interested in knowing. Not so much the color - because they knew their colors by then - but why were they a different color from other people they knew?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mixed isn’t a color. What color is his skin? Kids are literal. Answer him.

He's light brown. Most people would assume he's white or possibly a light skinned Latino. I'm very fair.

Tell him he's a beautiful brown. Then explain why he is the color he is. At least, that's what my kids were interested in knowing. Not so much the color - because they knew their colors by then - but why were they a different color from other people they knew?

OP here. Okay yes I didn't think it would come up but people do ask me if my husband's darker a lot.
My son hears these conversations. I think he's curious why he looks different.

[Anonymous]

I think he is just asking for a color, so tell him brown, or beige, or capuccino, or whatever shade. I told my DD peach when she asked this question at around 4. My other DD decided she was "bun" colored. As in the bread. The both have brown eyes, but are always making the distinction (very important to them, LOL!) that one is dark chocolate, the other, millk. Kids are very literal, so I am guessing he is just asking for a color, not a discussion of race at this age. That comes later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really like this book, and mixing paint as a way to explore the answer to this question:

[youtube] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=679Sw4IACAk [/youtube]

ooops

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=679Sw4IACAk

I clicked here to also recommend The Colors of Us!