my husband and i have had almost no sex in three years

[Anonymous]

I have zero sex drive. he has very little but hes trying. what do I do.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and I would have divorced you by now. Nor do you care clearly. For me marriage is over.

[Anonymous]

See your ob immediately. Check for hormone imbalance, etc. If it’s medical, you may be able to save the marriage. Of course, he may feel wounded, but you’d regret it if you didn’t try everything. Therapy may help, if you can get your interest back.

[Anonymous]

Op, if you have zero sex drive, that's a YOU problem.

[Anonymous]

I would have left you ages ago, but I have a normal sex drive.

[Anonymous]

Woman with zero sex drive = woman with fat boring lazy husband

[Anonymous]

How old is OP and DH?

[Anonymous]

Do other men make you horny? Are you gay? Childhood issues? Gotta figure it out!

[Anonymous]

Are you menopausal?

[Anonymous]

If you both have no sex drive, then it sounds like a match. A marriage can still be quite happy and fulfilled as long as both partners are on the same page.

What's the issue?

[Anonymous]

Us, too. Though it's more like five years. My husband has zero sex drive - he promises it's not me; I hope it's not me. He has some medical problems, plus he gained a lot of weight and feels horrible about himself. And now he's got a big hangup about it.

I used to have a big sex drive - but I guess out of self-preservation it's down to almost zero. As of the end of August, it will have been a year since we had sex. I miss having sex - but I love my husband, and I know that it would break his d*mn heart if I had sex with someone else.

I don't know what you do. Either live with it, cheat, or leave and find someone else, I guess. I'm living with it because I don't want to blow up my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Us, too. Though it's more like five years. My husband has zero sex drive - he promises it's not me; I hope it's not me. He has some medical problems, plus he gained a lot of weight and feels horrible about himself. And now he's got a big hangup about it.

I used to have a big sex drive - but I guess out of self-preservation it's down to almost zero. As of the end of August, it will have been a year since we had sex. I miss having sex - but I love my husband, and I know that it would break his d*mn heart if I had sex with someone else.

I don't know what you do. Either live with it, cheat, or leave and find someone else, I guess. I'm living with it because I don't want to blow up my life.

^^I could have written this. My husband constantly refers to himself as a “fat pig.” He has zero interest in sex and my interest has plummeted as a result.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Us, too. Though it's more like five years. My husband has zero sex drive - he promises it's not me; I hope it's not me. He has some medical problems, plus he gained a lot of weight and feels horrible about himself. And now he's got a big hangup about it.

I used to have a big sex drive - but I guess out of self-preservation it's down to almost zero. As of the end of August, it will have been a year since we had sex. I miss having sex - but I love my husband, and I know that it would break his d*mn heart if I had sex with someone else.

I don't know what you do. Either live with it, cheat, or leave and find someone else, I guess. I'm living with it because I don't want to blow up my life.

+1

He says it’s not me. It sure effects me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you both have no sex drive, then it sounds like a match. A marriage can still be quite happy and fulfilled as long as both partners are on the same page.

What's the issue?

+1, Don't make it a problem if it isn't one!

[Anonymous]

Man here, and I totally can't relate except that my wife has low drive but will participate if I initiate.

If you aren't into sex either, is this an issue? I often think if I went low drive my wife would miss feeling desired and the idea of sex but not really the actual sex.

Point being, if you get into a new relationship, you will be expected to have sex all the time again. Do you want that?