my husband and i have had almost no sex in three years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Us, too. Though it's more like five years. My husband has zero sex drive - he promises it's not me; I hope it's not me. He has some medical problems, plus he gained a lot of weight and feels horrible about himself. And now he's got a big hangup about it.

I used to have a big sex drive - but I guess out of self-preservation it's down to almost zero. As of the end of August, it will have been a year since we had sex. I miss having sex - but I love my husband, and I know that it would break his d*mn heart if I had sex with someone else.

I don't know what you do. Either live with it, cheat, or leave and find someone else, I guess. I'm living with it because I don't want to blow up my life.

+1

He says it’s not me. It sure effects me.

I'm the PP - and it affects me, too. I feel pretty unappealing given my husband's lack of interest. Though I know he doesn't mean to make me feel that way. We are very affectionate with each other, still.

Maybe we need our own thread. I'm sorry you've got this issue, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman with zero sex drive = woman with fat boring lazy husband

err, no Miss ManHater, it probably because SHE'S fat and lazy. Nothing cures libido faster or more naturally than getting into a gym and getting in shape.

[Anonymous]

Us too. Me zero drive, him low. I’m pretty sure I could get into a new partner, but idk where I’d even find one.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are made for each other. What is the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman with zero sex drive = woman with fat boring lazy husband

err, no Miss ManHater, it probably because SHE'S fat and lazy. Nothing cures libido faster or more naturally than getting into a gym and getting in shape.

You sound ignorant.
Men who have gained weight often lose their libido because they feel badly about how they look.
I’m in great shape. My husband has gained 50 pounds. He’s lost all interest in sex. It’s not because of my weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman with zero sex drive = woman with fat boring lazy husband

err, no Miss ManHater, it probably because SHE'S fat and lazy. Nothing cures libido faster or more naturally than getting into a gym and getting in shape.

You sound ignorant.
Men who have gained weight often lose their libido because they feel badly about how they look.
I’m in great shape. My husband has gained 50 pounds. He’s lost all interest in sex. It’s not because of my weight.

Just ignore the trolls. Spousal loss of libido is almost always something internal in the spouse who lost it and almost never from the spouse who wants to have sex. I am sure you and I and everyone else married to a zero libido spouse could easily attract someone new if it weren't for the ethics of cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman with zero sex drive = woman with fat boring lazy husband

err, no Miss ManHater, it probably because SHE'S fat and lazy. Nothing cures libido faster or more naturally than getting into a gym and getting in shape.

You sound ignorant.
Men who have gained weight often lose their libido because they feel badly about how they look.
I’m in great shape. My husband has gained 50 pounds. He’s lost all interest in sex. It’s not because of my weight.

Anonymous wrote: Nothing cures libido faster or more naturally than getting into a gym and getting in shape.

yea, ignore the 'trolls'