It would mean the world to me if my husband cooked

[Anonymous]

Even if it was just one meal a week, or even a month! It would really mean so much to me. Making meals (breakfasts, lunches, dinners) with limited time and picky eaters is exhausting and I hate it. My husband has never cooked (I think he's made oatmeal and mac n cheese once in his life) and has no desire to cook. He also usually gets home later (usually after dinner time). He has good qualities, but as I sit here meal planning for the week, I'm just thinking, I wish I had picked a partner that could cook!!!

[Anonymous]

Have him grill on the weekends when it’s not so hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have him grill on the weekends when it’s not so hot.

This is completely sexist. Why can a man grill but not cook in the kitchen?

[Anonymous]

You didn’t see this when you married him? No sympathy here. You probably passed over lots of nice guys to find your chad.

[Anonymous]

Cold cuts and Spaghettios until he's ready to learn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him grill on the weekends when it’s not so hot.

This is completely sexist. Why can a man grill but not cook in the kitchen?

Hey, boo. I married a man who cooks and is a full partner. This OP did not. I’m trying to advise someone whose husband clearly hates the kitchen.

Grilling is...cooking, honey. It’s just outside. Food still gets on the table.

Let’s hear your better suggestion for OP to get a night off from cooking and still get decently fed at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him grill on the weekends when it’s not so hot.

This is completely sexist. Why can a man grill but not cook in the kitchen?

Hey, boo. I married a man who cooks and is a full partner. This OP did not. I’m trying to advise someone whose husband clearly hates the kitchen.

Grilling is...cooking, honey. It’s just outside. Food still gets on the table.

Let’s hear your better suggestion for OP to get a night off from cooking and still get decently fed at home.

Different poster - she can start by divorcing him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him grill on the weekends when it’s not so hot.

This is completely sexist. Why can a man grill but not cook in the kitchen?

Hey, boo. I married a man who cooks and is a full partner. This OP did not. I’m trying to advise someone whose husband clearly hates the kitchen.

Grilling is...cooking, honey. It’s just outside. Food still gets on the table.

Let’s hear your better suggestion for OP to get a night off from cooking and still get decently fed at home.

Different poster - she can start by divorcing him.

LOL, what a great solution. After divorcing she'll do literally everything + cooking.

[Anonymous]

So order take out? Hire someone for meal prep?

Ask him to pour cereal and milk for the kids? Assemble some sandwiches?

I get the sense the really problem here is that OP is insistent on "cooking" for every meal. We have picky eaters and if anything it makes me less likely to cook. They love frozen waffles so that is breakfast. School lunches are cheese sandwiches and chopped fruits and veggies. Dinner is often various pastas, simple grilled stuff, or take out.

OP, you are the one planning all of these meals that you hate cooking. That is not your DH's fault.

[Anonymous]

Some parents have a point system, such as when a child does 5 chores, 10 points are earned. That allows the child to watch TV or play video games for so many hours.

Set your husband up on a point system so that when he cooks a meal he earns 5 points. If he wants sex that will be 15 points (or whatever number you determine).
If he wants to watch a ball game or play a video game, 50 points, That'll get him cooking!

You can get creative here. Dangle that carrot from a stick, put that bag of oats before him.

[Anonymous]

Op seems to have picked her hill to die on. Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So order take out? Hire someone for meal prep?

Ask him to pour cereal and milk for the kids? Assemble some sandwiches?

I get the sense the really problem here is that OP is insistent on "cooking" for every meal. We have picky eaters and if anything it makes me less likely to cook. They love frozen waffles so that is breakfast. School lunches are cheese sandwiches and chopped fruits and veggies. Dinner is often various pastas, simple grilled stuff, or take out.

OP, you are the one planning all of these meals that you hate cooking. That is not your DH's fault.

This is the best advice so far. I also have a picky eater and many meals aren’t “cooked”.

You can also make big batches on the weekend and have leftovers during the week. DH is not a big cook but he learned a hidden veggie mac and cheese recipe that he makes pretty much every weekend, and dd eats several times throughout the week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him grill on the weekends when it’s not so hot.

This is completely sexist. Why can a man grill but not cook in the kitchen?

Hey, boo. I married a man who cooks and is a full partner. This OP did not. I’m trying to advise someone whose husband clearly hates the kitchen.

Grilling is...cooking, honey. It’s just outside. Food still gets on the table.

Let’s hear your better suggestion for OP to get a night off from cooking and still get decently fed at home.

Different poster - she can start by divorcing him.

What, because he pulled a bait-and-switch? Was he cooking up a storm whilst dating and engaged, only to show his true colors of never cooking?

Or...wait. Did she choose to marry a non-cook, then complain?

[Anonymous]

OP, friends of mine have had good luck starting their non-cook husbands with the meal kits, eg. Blue Apron, Hello Fresh. The recipes were
easy enough for a beginner and they really 'walk you through it'. The guys were enthusiastic enough to want to start making meals 2-3x's a week.

[Anonymous]

I’m all about sharing the load, but cooking is just one part of home and family maintenance. What’s the overall load? My DH can cook, but he doesn’t like it. I do. And when I don’t feel like it, it’s breakfasr for dinner or rotisserie chicken with salad. He’s better at cleaning than I am, so he does more of that.

So don’t do all that meal prep if you hate cooking. Or make a simple schedule so you don’t have to think about it. Pasta Monday, taco Tuesday p, etc.