It would mean the world to me if my husband cooked

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m all about sharing the load, but cooking is just one part of home and family maintenance. What’s the overall load? My DH can cook, but he doesn’t like it. I do. And when I don’t feel like it, it’s breakfasr for dinner or rotisserie chicken with salad. He’s better at cleaning than I am, so he does more of that.

So don’t do all that meal prep if you hate cooking. Or make a simple schedule so you don’t have to think about it. Pasta Monday, taco Tuesday p, etc.

Excellent post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some parents have a point system, such as when a child does 5 chores, 10 points are earned. That allows the child to watch TV or play video games for so many hours.

Set your husband up on a point system so that when he cooks a meal he earns 5 points. If he wants sex that will be 15 points (or whatever number you determine).
If he wants to watch a ball game or play a video game, 50 points, That'll get him cooking!

You can get creative here. Dangle that carrot from a stick, put that bag of oats before him.

You can’t be serious. If my wife treated me like this, I’d have plenty of sex - with somebody else!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, friends of mine have had good luck starting their non-cook husbands with the meal kits, eg. Blue Apron, Hello Fresh. The recipes were
easy enough for a beginner and they really 'walk you through it'. The guys were enthusiastic enough to want to start making meals 2-3x's a week.

These services are so environmentally wasteful. You’re too lazy to find a basic recipe or even watch a video online, grocery shop (which you still have to do with meal kit services anyway—they don’t deliver toothpaste and TP), chop and measure a bit, and do some easy cooking? Rape the earth more so you don’t have to slice a cucumber.

[Anonymous]

Safeway, Target, Costco, Whole Foods, etc. now have meal kits in store, ready for purchase. (You don’t have to sign up for regular delivery from a company like Hello Fresh or whatever.) I’m a DW and I hate to cook. My DH loves it. But occasionally he wants a break and I reach for one of those kits because it makes it less likely it will be inedible.

Also, maybe this is part of it, because it was for me: my DH used to make me nervous in the kitchen. He’d tell me I was using the wrong knife, or I had the stove heat on too high or whatever. When he leaves me alone and doesn’t hover I make fewer mistakes. If you tend to hover, instead go do something else while your FH cooks and let him succeed.

The other thing that helps since he usually does the cooking is I’ll clean up. Or I will offer to do something else: “while you cook, I’ll take care of the laundry” so I don’t feel like I’m lounging while he works. Or that he doesn’t feel that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some parents have a point system, such as when a child does 5 chores, 10 points are earned. That allows the child to watch TV or play video games for so many hours.

Set your husband up on a point system so that when he cooks a meal he earns 5 points. If he wants sex that will be 15 points (or whatever number you determine).
If he wants to watch a ball game or play a video game, 50 points, That'll get him cooking!

You can get creative here. Dangle that carrot from a stick, put that bag of oats before him.

You can’t be serious. If my wife treated me like this, I’d have plenty of sex - with somebody else!

Yeah good luck with that Leonardo. They aren’t exactly lining up for you I’m sure.

[Anonymous]

A real man grills, with charcoal.

[Anonymous]

^ ...and he hunts and spears his own wild boar.

[Anonymous]

This is exactly why I hired meal prep. Best money spent. We're both happier.

[Anonymous]

I still don't understand posts like this. So... what happens if you ask him to cook? He's just like "no"? He doesn't care what your feelings are about it?

[Anonymous]

I get it OP. I have a friend in a similar position. It didn't matter when they were dating. He enjoys cooking and is really good at it. But once kids were added and all that goes along with them, he started to get a little resentful. His wife put up a bit of a stink at first saying she can't cook etc. So he said fine ..get take out. Now she cooks once a week. They are very basic meals but it still helps.

[Anonymous]

Don't make it so complicated OP. Why does breakfast and lunch have to be a huge deal?

[Anonymous]

If your hub is a scrub, call Grub Hub.

[Anonymous]

Cooking for yourself or another adult is a lot easier than cooking for adults and kids. Sometimes I end up cooking 3 different entrees because the kids won't eat the adults want and vice versa. It's awful

[Anonymous]

I agree that you should try meal prep delivery. Home Chef is really easy. I do this with my 14 year old DS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cooking for yourself or another adult is a lot easier than cooking for adults and kids. Sometimes I end up cooking 3 different entrees because the kids won't eat the adults want and vice versa. It's awful

Jesus. Don’t do that. Tell the kids it is not a restaurant and if they don’t want what you cook they can eat a piece of fruit.