Friend has made me doubt my relationship

[Anonymous]

I am 50 and had it rough. My 1st husband was abusive and had multiple affairs. I was left to bring up our daughter alone.
I then met someone amazing. He was 14 years older than me but we clicked instantly. I was heartbroken when he died of motor neurone disease in November 2016.
Last Summer (August 2018) I met a lovely man at a concert. His wife of 12 years had cheated on him back in April and they were separated.
We clicked immediately and have been blissfully happy ever since. I don't think I have ever felt so happy.
His ex left him with many issues. One being confidence in the bedroom. He takes viagra and sex is amazing as our connection is so strong.
So I was hurt when my sister said he probably isn't over his ex as he needs to take them. It's now made me doubt things. Am i just being ridiculous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 and had it rough. My 1st husband was abusive and had multiple affairs. I was left to bring up our daughter alone.
I then met someone amazing. He was 14 years older than me but we clicked instantly. I was heartbroken when he died of motor neurone disease in November 2016.
Last Summer (August 2018) I met a lovely man at a concert. His wife of 12 years had cheated on him back in April and they were separated.
We clicked immediately and have been blissfully happy ever since. I don't think I have ever felt so happy.
His ex left him with many issues. One being confidence in the bedroom. He takes viagra and sex is amazing as our connection is so strong.
So I was hurt when my sister said he probably isn't over his ex as he needs to take them. It's now made me doubt things. Am i just being ridiculous?

Yes you are being ridiculous. Don't let her give you doubts. And stop sharing those types of intimate details.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Just enjoy the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Sister or friend?

[Anonymous]

He was 4 months separated when he met you, was cheated on and viagra is what you are worried about?

[Anonymous]

Sister. Trying not to our myself so changed the story slightly.

OP.

[Anonymous]

A man using viagra may do so for many reasons, and not one of them is that he is not over his soon to be x.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man using viagra may do so for many reasons, and not one of them is that he is not over his soon to be x.

+1

I’ll bet he’s exaggerating the whole “wounded by my ex” angle to explain his viagra usage. I’ll bet you he needed it with her, too. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man using viagra may do so for many reasons, and not one of them is that he is not over his soon to be x.

+1 Enjoy your time with him and ignore your sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 and had it rough. My 1st husband was abusive and had multiple affairs. I was left to bring up our daughter alone.
I then met someone amazing. He was 14 years older than me but we clicked instantly. I was heartbroken when he died of motor neurone disease in November 2016.
Last Summer (August 2018) I met a lovely man at a concert. His wife of 12 years had cheated on him back in April and they were separated.
We clicked immediately and have been blissfully happy ever since. I don't think I have ever felt so happy.
His ex left him with many issues. One being confidence in the bedroom. He takes viagra and sex is amazing as our connection is so strong.
So I was hurt when my sister said he probably isn't over his ex as he needs to take them. It's now made me doubt things. Am i just being ridiculous?

Does your sister do this a lot?

[Anonymous]

You are being ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 and had it rough. My 1st husband was abusive and had multiple affairs. I was left to bring up our daughter alone.
I then met someone amazing. He was 14 years older than me but we clicked instantly. I was heartbroken when he died of motor neurone disease in November 2016.
Last Summer (August 2018) I met a lovely man at a concert. His wife of 12 years had cheated on him back in April and they were separated.
We clicked immediately and have been blissfully happy ever since. I don't think I have ever felt so happy.
His ex left him with many issues. One being confidence in the bedroom. He takes viagra and sex is amazing as our connection is so strong.
So I was hurt when my sister said he probably isn't over his ex as he needs to take them. It's now made me doubt things. Am i just being ridiculous?

IME, 4 months is not enough time for someone to get over a 12 year marriage. He is still in shock. I would to get too serious too quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 and had it rough. My 1st husband was abusive and had multiple affairs. I was left to bring up our daughter alone.
I then met someone amazing. He was 14 years older than me but we clicked instantly. I was heartbroken when he died of motor neurone disease in November 2016.
Last Summer (August 2018) I met a lovely man at a concert. His wife of 12 years had cheated on him back in April and they were separated.
We clicked immediately and have been blissfully happy ever since. I don't think I have ever felt so happy.
His ex left him with many issues. One being confidence in the bedroom. He takes viagra and sex is amazing as our connection is so strong.
So I was hurt when my sister said he probably isn't over his ex as he needs to take them. It's now made me doubt things. Am i just being ridiculous?

IME, 4 months is not enough time for someone to get over a 12 year marriage. He is still in shock. I would NOT to get too serious too quickly.

[Anonymous]

A lot of older guys use viagra. It can be helpful.

I think she's off-base about that particular thing, but she may have a point about it being so soon. I'd be worried myself, that he might be rebounding a little. Yes, it's absolutely possible that he's not and i hope for your sake that he is not. But just be aware of the possibility. Maybe don't make any long-term plans just yet, like selling your house and moving in with him. Give it a year or two before making plans that would be tough to undo.

good luck!

[Anonymous]

Yes, we won't be making any solid plans until his divorce comes through.
He hates his ex though and is glad to be out of it all. He has suffered a lot and his self esteem is very low.
It was just a moment of self doubt. His ex was gorgeous and 36 years old. I am 50 and it shows. But deep down I know he really loves me and that's what counts.