Friend has made me doubt my relationship

[Anonymous]

Haters gonna hate OP. Enjoy your new guy.

[Anonymous]

Your sister is not nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we won't be making any solid plans until his divorce comes through.
He hates his ex though and is glad to be out of it all. He has suffered a lot and his self esteem is very low.
It was just a moment of self doubt. His ex was gorgeous and 36 years old. I am 50 and it shows. But deep down I know he really loves me and that's what counts.

How old are s h

[Anonymous]

How does your sister know your guy needs Viagra? Gross. You're not a teenager, stop sharing these kinds of details. Would you want him sharing similar details about your anatomy with family and friends? I'm guessing no.

A recent breakup of a long marriage, that was not initiated by him... honestly, your sister is right to be concerned, it's very possibly a rebound for him. Try not to get too attached before he actually shows he is committed to something long term.

[Anonymous]

How old is he?

[Anonymous]

He is 51. I am 50.
We have been together a year next week and both of us couldn't be happier. He said he can see what a real relationship is meant to look like now. It feels more equal not one sided like his last marriage was.

I did have a moment of doubt which is why I confided in my sister. I tell her every thing, she is my best friend.

[Anonymous]

He had been married since she was 24 and he was 39?

Which means they met when she was still an undergraduate and he was in his mid-30s?

That would give me WAY more pause than him using Viagra, to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 and had it rough. My 1st husband was abusive and had multiple affairs. I was left to bring up our daughter alone.
I then met someone amazing. He was 14 years older than me but we clicked instantly. I was heartbroken when he died of motor neurone disease in November 2016.
Last Summer (August 2018) I met a lovely man at a concert. His wife of 12 years had cheated on him back in April and they were separated.
We clicked immediately and have been blissfully happy ever since. I don't think I have ever felt so happy.
His ex left him with many issues. One being confidence in the bedroom. He takes viagra and sex is amazing as our connection is so strong.
So I was hurt when my sister said he probably isn't over his ex as he needs to take them. It's now made me doubt things. Am i just being ridiculous?

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous. Lots of men need viagra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He had been married since she was 24 and he was 39?

Which means they met when she was still an undergraduate and he was in his mid-30s?

That would give me WAY more pause than him using Viagra, to be honest.

Why? It's a 14 year age gap. Not like she was 15 and he was 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He had been married since she was 24 and he was 39?

Which means they met when she was still an undergraduate and he was in his mid-30s?

That would give me WAY more pause than him using Viagra, to be honest.

Why? It's a 14 year age gap. Not like she was 15 and he was 30.

If you start college when you're 18 and graduate in 4 years, you're usually 22, not 24.

But, whatever, ignore your sister, OP.

[Anonymous]

F your sister! How rude of her! This is the natural progression of life; women’s bodies change, men’s bodies change. You start using more supplements and lubes and enjoy yourself! This has NOTHING to do with his ex. You said you and he are happy, that is all you need!

[Anonymous]

Friend or sister?! I call troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sister. Trying not to our myself so changed the story slightly.

OP.

Why are you sharing such personal information about him with anyone, sister, friend, or otherwise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is 51. I am 50.
We have been together a year next week and both of us couldn't be happier. He said he can see what a real relationship is meant to look like now. It feels more equal not one sided like his last marriage was.

I did have a moment of doubt which is why I confided in my sister. I tell her every thing, she is my best friend.

Tell her whatever you want about yourself.

Sharing personal information about him is a colossal breach of trust and boundary violation. Does he know that you shared this? It's outrageous.