Guy won’t take a hint. Do I have to be rude?

[Anonymous]

Met a guy a few months ago (lives in another city). Communication ramped up starting a few weeks ago, when he told me he’d be in town (was in town this weekend). Came on waaaaaay too strong when we met up (told me about his abusive father while we were out, tried to kiss me when we said goodbye despite zero chemistry). Now he’s following up with a lot of pointed texting. I’ve been cool toward him, but I think it’s rude to ghost outright. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Why can't you just tell him you're not interested?

[Anonymous]

There’s something in the middle of “hint” and “rude”.

Like “sorry, but I’m not interested in dating or communicating further. Hope you have a nice week!”

[Anonymous]

Maybe he thought you had chemistry. You kind of sound mean. A simple text like, “Thanks for dinner, it was nice to have a chance to get to know you, but I am not interested in taking this further.”

How did you meet him?

[Anonymous]

It’s not rude to be direct. “I enjoyed meeting you but I do not see us having a relationship and do not want to meet up again. I wish you success in your next match.”

[Anonymous]

Be blunt. Don’t feel guilty about being clear and unequivocable.

“I’m not interested. I won’t change my mind.”

[Anonymous]

No harm in blocking his number.

[Anonymous]

Say something like “thanks for our time together but I didn’t really feel a connection. All the best.”

[Anonymous]

It’s not hard.

[Anonymous]

I don't really think you have given a hint and you seem to be very judgmental. A kiss on the first date is not way out there especially if he felt chemistry. What did you say to him them? When did you tell him you didn't feel a connection or chemistry and didn't want to continue to see him?

Texting someone after a date that he felt went well and that he felt had chemistry is normal.

If you aren't interested, tell him that. It isn't rude. It is actually respectful to tell someone the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not rude to be direct. “I enjoyed meeting you but I do not see us having a relationship and do not want to meet up again. I wish you success in your next match.”

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s something in the middle of “hint” and “rude”.

Like “sorry, but I’m not interested in dating or communicating further. Hope you have a nice week!”

Seriously, OP, ghosting is a coward's way out. Just tell the guy you're not interested. That's respecting him as a person and you acting like a grown up.

[Anonymous]

Ghost or be direct with no hints, wiggle room, and the like.

[Anonymous]

Just block him. Creepy

[Anonymous]

You have some good advice in here. I’d be direct and simple, And then I would block his number if he tries to reach out again and continue communications.