Is it really “being good” if you are on an iPad for 3+ hours?

[Anonymous]

My 3 yo nephew has been on an iPad since about 8:30 am. MIL is marveling that he is “being so good”. (We are at MIL’s house). I find it odd that this is her definition of good behavior.

[Anonymous]

It’s today’s world

[Anonymous]

That is so bad for the poor little kid.

[Anonymous]

Is he misbehaving? Causing any problems? Then yes, he’s being good. He could still be whining, crying, complaining, running around, whatever (all normal for 3 year olds). Sounds like you just want to criticize and be superior.

[Anonymous]

Lol. I am a teacher and this is almost always what I hear from parents when we have discussions about behavior. They say that they are always "so good" or they are "no problem" at home. I bet they are. We had to stop using iPads in our center rotations because of the number of students freaking out when it was time to stop using them and move to a different center.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is so bad for the poor little kid.

Agree. Poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he misbehaving? Causing any problems? Then yes, he’s being good. He could still be whining, crying, complaining, running around, whatever (all normal for 3 year olds). Sounds like you just want to criticize and be superior.

Yes, that's what 3 year olds should be doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he misbehaving? Causing any problems? Then yes, he’s being good. He could still be whining, crying, complaining, running around, whatever (all normal for 3 year olds). Sounds like you just want to criticize and be superior.

Well I think if we try to engage him he will freak out. Like MIL just went to her garden (great little kid opportunity) but she didn’t seem to want to mess with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 3 yo nephew has been on an iPad since about 8:30 am. MIL is marveling that he is “being so good”. (We are at MIL’s house). I find it odd that this is her definition of good behavior.

dp Do you have kids? Do you not like your nephew's parents? I find that most comments are negative when the writer doesn't like the parents and therefore sees every comment through a negative lenses. Why are you so judgmental? Or is it your MIL you don't like? Why does every comment have to analysed to death? Is the nephew bothering you? Crying? Than I would say he is being good too.

Why don't you engage with your nephew if you think it is so bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 3 yo nephew has been on an iPad since about 8:30 am. MIL is marveling that he is “being so good”. (We are at MIL’s house). I find it odd that this is her definition of good behavior.

dp Do you have kids? Do you not like your nephew's parents? I find that most comments are negative when the writer doesn't like the parents and therefore sees every comment through a negative lenses. Why are you so judgmental? Or is it your MIL you don't like? Why does every comment have to analysed to death? Is the nephew bothering you? Crying? Than I would say he is being good too.

Why don't you engage with your nephew if you think it is so bad?

Agree with all of this

[Anonymous]

I have a kid and we do Plenty of screen time. I like my nephew, like his parents, like MIL.
Sometimes I even give in and let my kid have my phone at a restaurant and he’s happy and quiet. But I would not call that being good.

[Anonymous]

If we are in a different location, such as an in-law's house, we give the kids more screen time than usual, as there is less to entertain them. It isn't the end of the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid and we do Plenty of screen time. I like my nephew, like his parents, like MIL.
Sometimes I even give in and let my kid have my phone at a restaurant and he’s happy and quiet. But I would not call that being good.

Also I’m not playing with him bc he will say no and if I push it I’m afraid he will get upset and then MIL will be annoyed that I broke the peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If we are in a different location, such as an in-law's house, we give the kids more screen time than usual, as there is less to entertain them. It isn't the end of the world.

We do the same. I’m not asking if that is the end of the world. I’m asking it you consider that being good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid and we do Plenty of screen time. I like my nephew, like his parents, like MIL.
Sometimes I even give in and let my kid have my phone at a restaurant and he’s happy and quiet. But I would not call that being good.

To the grandma and your MIL it is being good. Is the reason you are posting is because you want to be told your nephew is NOT being good and that he is a monster and your MIL is delusional?

Repeat after me: It may not be "good" behavior for you but, it can be for other people. And that is ok too. Just leave the kid alone than and go feel smugly superior somewhere else. I guess here is as good as any but, I don't think you are superior because you are judging other people which isn't nice.