my daughter being mean

[Anonymous]

Ugh. 13 years old. What do you do when you realize your kid might be a mean girl? There is a teacher at her school with a pretty thick European accent and I overheard my daughter mocking this teacher. And other kids in her school.

[Anonymous]

What do you think you should do?

[Anonymous]

She was also mocking other kids?

[Anonymous]

I’d make her participate in volunteer work with younger special needs children.
Is your daughter generally pretty spoiled?

[Anonymous]

If she's mocking them at home to family, no big deal.

If she's doing it to be mean and in front of the people who speak this way, I'd personally critique her. "Don't imitate someone if you can't get their accent right. Go practice - that could be Poland, could be Hungary - you're all over the map."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's mocking them at home to family, no big deal.

If she's doing it to be mean and in front of the people who speak this way, I'd personally critique her. "Don't imitate someone if you can't get their accent right. Go practice - that could be Poland, could be Hungary - you're all over the map."

She was doing it to her friends at a soccer tournament.

[Anonymous]

grounded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d make her participate in volunteer work with younger special needs children.
Is your daughter generally pretty spoiled?

What? So SN kids suffer because her daughter is a B? Make her plant flowers. Working with SN kids should be for people who want to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she's mocking them at home to family, no big deal.

If she's doing it to be mean and in front of the people who speak this way, I'd personally critique her. "Don't imitate someone if you can't get their accent right. Go practice - that could be Poland, could be Hungary - you're all over the map."

She was doing it to her friends at a soccer tournament.

If she's making fun of her friends, I'd look at whether or not they're getting upset. My daughter and her friends tease each other all the time, and they have no drama. Nobody takes it personally, and nobody pushes it too far. If her friends ARE getting upset, I'd point out to her that they will drop her if she continues making them feel badly. And then step back and let her make the decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d make her participate in volunteer work with younger special needs children.
Is your daughter generally pretty spoiled?

What? So SN kids suffer because her daughter is a B? Make her plant flowers. Working with SN kids should be for people who want to do it.

My thought was that the kid would soften her heart, and change her tune instantly. But who knows? Maybe she would be a B. What say you, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d make her participate in volunteer work with younger special needs children.
Is your daughter generally pretty spoiled?

What? So SN kids suffer because her daughter is a B? Make her plant flowers. Working with SN kids should be for people who want to do it.

My thought was that the kid would soften her heart, and change her tune instantly. But who knows? Maybe she would be a B. What say you, OP?

SN kids aren’t props for OP’s daughter to learn kindness, they’re human beings.

[Anonymous]

I’d have personally walked over and scolded her in front of her friends because I have no tolerance for my kid acting like an Asshole, and she knows that about me. Let her see how it feels to be treated like crap in front of other people.

Anyway, I agree SN volunteering is not a good idea. People don’t melt their hearts like the Grinch does in the movie.

[Anonymous]

I agree PP. I would have shut it down too.

[Anonymous]

Grounding

[Anonymous]

As far as the accent goes, I tell my DS that if he hears an accent from a non English speaking country, it's because the other person speaks at least two languages. Say this to your DD and ask her how many languages she speaks fluently?

If she's mocking her friends, explain succinctly that she won't have friends if she keeps it up. If that happens, it's her choice. I don't really agree with interfering with the friends and embarrassing your DD is the answer, unless it's egregious behavior (i.e. outright bullying or nastiness).

No, going to work with SN kids isn't the answer-- but some volunteer work might help broaden her experiences.