Did I cheat?

[Anonymous]

I am a straight woman, just married (10 mos) to a super awesome guy that I love and he loves me and my four year old daughter. He’s been more her daddy than her real dad. I love him. He’s not a bad guy in any way— the only minor drawback is he isn’t very affectionate—like he doesn’t hold hands or out his arm around me or anything. The sex though, is very good!

But I was out with my friends a couple weekends ago as a whole group and one of my friends is bi. Anyway my friend (known her for a year or so) and I end up the only two of us in the bathroom and she kissed me. She also touched and massaged my chest under my shirt and that sounds weird but I can’t think of any other way to say it.. she squeezed my boobs? ? at first I was so surprised but now I’m confused as heck because I kinda liked it and wouldn’t mind letting her do it again. Was this cheating because I liked it even though I didn’t ask her to? I won’t let her do it again but I did like it which I feel really guilty,

[Anonymous]

Um yes you cheated and similarly if you didn't like it, it would be sexual assault.

[Anonymous]

nothing to feel guilty about - or disclose - if you’re not going to do it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: nothing to feel guilty about - or disclose - if you’re not going to do it again.

Yes, OP is female so cheating is OK and it's DH's fault for not being affectionate.

If OP was male, people would be saying it's time to see a divorce lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Think about how you would feel if your husband had done the same thing with another man. Just because it’s same sex doesn’t mean it’s not cheating.

[Anonymous]

You didn't stop her when she first initiated, you cheated.

[Anonymous]

I kissed a girl and I liked it...

[Anonymous]

Your friend was in the wrong for coming on to you and kissing and groping you in a bathroom without first checking that you wanted that kind of contact. That was pretty brazen considering you are straight and married. This woman is not a good friend.

The sexual assault aspect aside, yes it is cheating. If you are kissing other people, man or woman, you are cheating on your spouse. Liking it is immaterial. Not cheating isn't about how much you would enjoy it, it is about your morals, values, integrity, and character

[Anonymous]

What if a man did that to you without consent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if a man did that to you without consent?

It sounds like op consented.

[Anonymous]

She might be your soulmate.

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s cheating. I’d like to echo the PP that said what if this happened to your DH with another male?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: nothing to feel guilty about - or disclose - if you’re not going to do it again.

Yes, OP is female so cheating is OK and it's DH's fault for not being affectionate.

If OP was male, people would be saying it's time to see a divorce lawyer.

100%

[Anonymous]

OP, what if a woman kissed your husband and grabbed his junk, while he passively participated doing nothing to stop it? Oh yeah, he’d also like her to do it again. Cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if a woman kissed your husband and grabbed his junk, while he passively participated doing nothing to stop it? Oh yeah, he’d also like her to do it again. Cheating?

Wouldn't the equivalent comparison be a man kissing the husband and grabbing his chest?