Really upset over weight gain

[Anonymous]

I know that I shouldn't be thinking about this at all, but I weighed myself after getting back from Thanksgiving and seriously I felt like crying. I'm 5'5" and started out around 128 pounds, and now I'm 145 and I'm only 23.5 weeks. I am really active, and had been managing my weight well (really sticking to the 1 pound a week limit by counting calories and keeping my activity levels up), but I literally gained 3 pounds over Thanksgiving weekend. My in laws kept making me drink whole milk and eat all of these almonds (my MIL was on this omega 3 kick), and now I just feel so fat. I'm just so upset that my doctor is going to get mad at me, and I just feel so big. Now I know I shouldn't care because I'm pregnant not fat, but I just feel so fat compared to everyone. Sorry I just needed to vent, my husband would get really mad at me if I said that I was upset about gaining too much weight.

[Anonymous]

I felt like that bu dont blame yours in laws.


laxative,water letuce and vitamins!!!

[Anonymous]

I hope the PP was kidding. Do not take a laxative to lose weight.

With that said, OP, your doctor is not going to be made at you. And if he/she is, who cares. You're doing really well and I'm sure the weight will melt off you once you deliver, as you've been keeping your activity level up. Relax, and enjoy your pregnancy. Don't worry about the scale so much, as long as you're keeping active. I'd skip the calorie-counting, too.

[Anonymous]

Please don't worry yourself

Each pregnancy is different, even for the same mother.
This might be:
1. water weight that you will lose extremely quickly after the birth and does not "count".
2. real tissue weight that you gained quickly - your body might slow down for the next month to compensate.

I gained slowly but surely for my first, and with this second little one, I am gaining by fits and starts. A few weeks ago, I literally put on 2 pounds in 24 hours!!! After that, hardly anything to date...

[Anonymous]

With my first, I started at 145 (gym 3-4 x/week) and worked out throughout my pregnancy...and gained 65 lbs total. It took a little while to come off, but I was lower than my initial weight by a year (ending breastfeeding turned out to be the trick to those last few pounds). I know several other people with smaller frames who just gained a ton of weight, a lot of it being water too. Relax and go with the flow...just keep up the exercise like walking. If you build muscle easily like I do, then don't forget that besides the giant boobs (a few pounds there), your legs/quads/back are keeping up with the belly.
It's more important for you to be relaxed and healthy than obsessing over weight gain. Everyone's body reacts differently to pregnancy, and TRUST me, by the time that baby is mobile, you'll have a hard time NOT being thin!

[Anonymous]

Agree with the PP - please don't stress about this. Weight gain is so individual and really does go in fits and starts, and not something to worry about. For example, with my first pregnancy I gained no weight in the 1T due to food sensitivities - and then proceeded to pack on the pounds at the rate for women carrying twins, keeping it up until the very end, whereas other women I know gained the weigh towards the beginning then slowed down. It's all just very individual, and as long as you're making healthy food choices, I wouldn't worry about it.

And a couple unhealthy food choices won't kill you either (says the pregnant lady munching on chocolate.)

[Anonymous]

You're doing just fine - please don't worry about this! This is not a time to be counting calories or worrying about an extra pound or two. You have a live person growing in there who needs good nutrition; if you're eating well to provide for his/her growth, you're doing fine. A few extra pounds will not be an issue.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your weight gain is completely normal. Don't worry about it. I found I gained most of my weight in the 2nd trimester. I lost weight (a few lbs) in the last month. Just eat healthily and continue to exercise. It will all come off after the baby when you return to normal eating and exercise habits.

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel. I"m 5'3", started out at 106 lbs, am 24 weeks now and 128lbs. It freaks me out that I have already gained 22 lbs, but I figure my body must need it to sustain the pregnancy. I still work out 3-5x/wk and I am still running (did the Army 10-miler when I was 16 wks pregnant). I have always been athletic and thin and it is scary to see those high numbers on the scale. But I guess it is just what my body needs... and so does yours. You're obviously thin at baseline and very active; focus on good nutrition and exercise and stop worrying about the scale. I rarely weigh myself anymore b/c there's no point. And I do NOT count calories either. I focus on eating healthy foods when I am hungry. i could never restrict calories; I'm so hungry all the time and I feel shaky when I don't eat, so there's no way to restrict!! Instead I try to have healthy snacks instead of junk. Anyway, just accept that it's temporary and your weight gain will undoubtedly slow down towards the end.

[Anonymous]

It's normal--you're pregnant and your body needs this. as long as you're eating healthily, i wouldn't worry. ALL of my friends who have had babies recently have slimmed down--some to below pre-preg weight--in several months without dieting, many gained a lot of weight (esp. the skinniest ones, like the PP).

and fwiw, after gaining nearly no weight in first tri, i gained 20 lbs between week 16 and 28--nearly twice the recommended amount, and did freak out that I would put on 50 lbs or something......but am now at almost 38 weeks with a total weight gain of 29 lbs so far, and to be honest i was working out a lot more earlier and eating very healthily, etc. I put on a lot naturally in those weeks and have not put on much naturally in the end, without worrying too much one way or another. Just let go of the numbers, weigh yourself once a week at most if you must and focus on the good stuff--you're growing a baby in there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know how you feel. I"m 5'3", started out at 106 lbs, am 24 weeks now and 128lbs. It freaks me out that I have already gained 22 lbs, but I figure my body must need it to sustain the pregnancy. I still work out 3-5x/wk and I am still running (did the Army 10-miler when I was 16 wks pregnant). I have always been athletic and thin and it is scary to see those high numbers on the scale. But I guess it is just what my body needs... and so does yours. You're obviously thin at baseline and very active; focus on good nutrition and exercise and stop worrying about the scale. I rarely weigh myself anymore b/c there's no point. And I do NOT count calories either. I focus on eating healthy foods when I am hungry. i could never restrict calories; I'm so hungry all the time and I feel shaky when I don't eat, so there's no way to restrict!! Instead I try to have healthy snacks instead of junk. Anyway, just accept that it's temporary and your weight gain will undoubtedly slow down towards the end.

I am the same size when not pregnant and gained between 35-50 lbs with each of my 3 pregnancies. As my midwife said "this is what your body needs to do." It all melted away within 8 weeks post partum each time.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it? You started out at or around your ideal weight for your height, you are more than half way through and you have gained a total of 17 pounds. You are probably exactly where you should be at this point! And as for gaining three pounds in one weekend, I do that EVERY Thanksgiving, pregnant or not, and usually two of those three pounds are temporary bloat that goes away within a week. Seriously, you should not be concerned with this!

[Anonymous]

Seriously, stop looking at the scale and stop counting calories. You're growing a baby in your tummy for goodness sake. Like previous posters said, focus on eating healthy and being active (but not overdoing it). Be gentle with yourself.

[Anonymous]

being upset is stress. Stress can cause more weight gain. Relax, you will lose it later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, stop looking at the scale and stop counting calories. You're growing a baby in your tummy for goodness sake. Like previous posters said, focus on eating healthy and being active (but not overdoing it). Be gentle with yourself.

In your tummy? What an odd place.