Subtle signs of class

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Anonymous wrote:Decor from other countries, not decor from TJ Maxx.

You are confusing class with wealth, but that's so typical of DCUM.

And yet you won’t find members of the UC pushing a dirty shopping cart around TJ Maxx looking at trash. Well… except for my mother—but there is mental illness driving it with her.

Wait are you saying classy people don’t shop at TJ Maxx or rich people don’t? I can personally confirm that some super, generationally rich people I know shop there. If that makes them loss points in the class war so be it but they’re at least being smart with money.

Can confirm. Some of the richest ladies I know love a bargain and finding a needle in the haystack. Goodwill, to a lesser degree. TJ Maxx, yes. Consignment stores in wealthy neighborhoods. The wealthiest ladies can pull this off because their entire look whispers "I'm rich" and no one would think they go it for 1/10th of the retail price.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Decor from other countries, not decor from TJ Maxx.

You are confusing class with wealth, but that's so typical of DCUM.

And yet you won’t find members of the UC pushing a dirty shopping cart around TJ Maxx looking at trash. Well… except for my mother—but there is mental illness driving it with her.

Wait are you saying classy people don’t shop at TJ Maxx or rich people don’t? I can personally confirm that some super, generationally rich people I know shop there. If that makes them loss points in the class war so be it but they’re at least being smart with money.

Can confirm. Some of the richest ladies I know love a bargain and finding a needle in the haystack. Goodwill, to a lesser degree. TJ Maxx, yes. Consignment stores in wealthy neighborhoods. The wealthiest ladies can pull this off because their entire look whispers "I'm rich" and no one would think they go it for 1/10th of the retail price.

I’m rich (well, UMC by DCUM standards maybe?) and this is absolutely true. And I actually pick stuff up for free on the curb. My $25k couch and chair are sitting next to a small end table I picked up on trash day in a nice neighborhood. My coffee table is an old, solid wood piece I grabbed for free off of Marketplace and had refinished. Bought my Horowitz classical piano CDs used from Goodwill and charity thrift shops for $0.50-1 apiece. I don’t care is stuff is free or used, I just look for quality and design. People come over and look around and ask who my designer is.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who posts here about high v. Low class is automatically in the latter category.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well-spoken, good posture, don't speak too loudly or manhandle doors, walk softly, always be nice to service people, exude quiet confidence. My SIL who grew up very working class in Mass has told my brother she can tell we are from a more UMC family just by the way we conduct ourselves. It is subtle but tends to help you get places in a way that's hard to pinpoint (beyond the resume).

What are we considering to be "class"? If the proposition is that old money=class, then I disagree totally. I used to be server at a restaurant in Maine frequented by super old money people, in a stereotypical old money locale and...yeah..."nice to service people" is not something I'd associate with that crowd, LOL.

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Class and wealth are not the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like the good manners and cleanliness response of a PP.

I would add
Kindness
Tact / avoiding hurting others’ feelings
Valuing non monetary treasures such as musicality and artistic expression
Have original art and frame choice pieces of their children’s art
Have some furniture that goes back at least 3 generations
Value domestic staff and treat them very well
Ancestors who have highly distinctive accomplishments such as Nobel prizes or pioneering breakthroughs of some kind and some ancestors who are crazy
Encourage their children to work hard, make their own paths and use their advantages in life to do good
Consistent faith of some kind
Loyal friends and spouses (this is somewhat controversial)
Don’t over share on social media or post their children on social media

LOL. Ancestors with Nobel Prizes. Most Nobel prizes have been won by first and second generation immigrants many of whom were Jewish. Not Wasps. Not old money. The self congratulation and smugness has now officially crossed over into delusion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Making everyone feel at ease.

This is the whole point of manners. Classy people are well mannered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Class and wealth are not the same thing.

Not at all. We can all think of wealthy people with no class (Trumps, Kardashians) as well as I’m sure normal income people we know who just exude class. A good friend of mine’s mother is just about the classiest person I can think of, in dress and demeanor, and she is normal income.

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Pennants or other decor from private schools in kids rooms or studies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Class and wealth are not the same thing.

This is DCUM. Yes, they are.

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Anonymous wrote:Decor from other countries, not decor from TJ Maxx.

The decor from other countries is such a clear indicator of a tasteless boomer house. I’ve been to too many estate sales with houses filled with expensive souvenirs at decor, yet the owner could never be bothered to update the 70s kitchen or replace the brightly colored shag carpet. Not saying decor from tj maxx is the right answer either

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No one wants 1970’s crap from where your spouse was stationed.

This. Also, classy people do not join the military. JFK was the one exception to this rule.

Funny. My FIL was old WASP money in the NE. Town named after them, big Victorian home with servants, boarding school at 4 as they do in England. He had a long career in the military.

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One WASP relative had an ancestral line supporting a branch of the military since its inception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pennants or other decor from private schools in kids rooms or studies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like the good manners and cleanliness response of a PP.

I would add
Kindness
Tact / avoiding hurting others’ feelings
Valuing non monetary treasures such as musicality and artistic expression
Have original art and frame choice pieces of their children’s art
Have some furniture that goes back at least 3 generations
Value domestic staff and treat them very well
Ancestors who have highly distinctive accomplishments such as Nobel prizes or pioneering breakthroughs of some kind and some ancestors who are crazy
Encourage their children to work hard, make their own paths and use their advantages in life to do good
Consistent faith of some kind
Loyal friends and spouses (this is somewhat controversial)
Don’t over share on social media or post their children on social media

LOL. Ancestors with Nobel Prizes. Most Nobel prizes have been won by first and second generation immigrants many of whom were Jewish. Not Wasps. Not old money. The self congratulation and smugness has now officially crossed over into delusion.

+1

People get on here just to sh!tpost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Class and wealth are not the same thing.

This is so true. The NFL, NBA, and Hollywood are full of wealthy people who lack class. Money does not buy class. An individual's behavior, demeanor, and character traits determine their class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Class and wealth are not the same thing.

This is so true. The NFL, NBA, and Hollywood are full of wealthy people who lack class. Money does not buy class. An individual's behavior, demeanor, and character traits determine their class.

This was my main take away from reading A Little Princess too but at the same time, you know she dumped that rat like a hot coal.