Study: Moms spend more time on housework when there's a man in the house

[Anonymous]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/moms-spend-even-more-time-on-housework-when-a-mans-in-the-house-heres-why/2019/05/08/319da006-71ba-11e9-8be0-ca575670e91c_story.html?utm_term=.717a6cd47403

Op-ed in Washington Post is written by/based on a study by a UMD researcher.

Does this resonate with you?

[Anonymous]

Doing my part to defy this stereotype!!

[Anonymous]

All people generate housework. It stands to reason that in a house with an extra adult, there would be more housework to do. Some people are are a net gain for the household in terms of work. Others are a net loss.

[Anonymous]

The pressure on moms is real! That said, I own the pressure that I put on myself.

I wouldn't change it, though. Teachers get thanked properly because of me; Christmas traditions happen because of me. I very much feel I owe it to myself and my children to create a wonderful home life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All people generate housework. It stands to reason that in a house with an extra adult, there would be more housework to do. Some people are are a net gain for the household in terms of work. Others are a net loss.

Okay.. soo.. if there is an extra adult in the house, assuming they also have opposable thumbs, why is there MORE work?

Someone generating more work should also be helping with that more work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All people generate housework. It stands to reason that in a house with an extra adult, there would be more housework to do. Some people are are a net gain for the household in terms of work. Others are a net loss.

Okay.. soo.. if there is an extra adult in the house, assuming they also have opposable thumbs, why is there MORE work?

Someone generating more work should also be helping with that more work.

Depends on the man. My XH grew up with a SAHM and a cleaning lady. He expected a BJ if he took the recycling out along with the trash. I remarried and DH is a military vet from a large family. He’s much neater than I am and tends to discover things to clean himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All people generate housework. It stands to reason that in a house with an extra adult, there would be more housework to do. Some people are are a net gain for the household in terms of work. Others are a net loss.

Okay.. soo.. if there is an extra adult in the house, assuming they also have opposable thumbs, why is there MORE work?

Someone generating more work should also be helping with that more work.

OMG. You’re insufferable. Tit for tat? Huh?
Please grow up.

[Anonymous]

Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.

Same here. I just teach my kid how to clean so win win.

[Anonymous]

"our research showed that when there’s a man in the house, mothers spend more time cooking, cleaning, shopping and doing laundry than their single-mom counterparts."

Ok, well this is actually more about the reality of being a single mom. You have less time for this stuff, so you do less of it. You do take out more, you do PeaPod, you do the laundry on the quick cycle and only when absolutely necessary and push that load size to the breaking point; and you are rarely home, so what is there to clean anyway, and hopefully you are splurging on an cleaning lady because no one can do "it all" by themselves. Cooking, cleaning your own home, sorting laundry and doing reasonalbe sized loads, spending hours in Whole Foods shopping, sampling, maybe visiting the coffee bar there ... these are luxuries of people who have time, and if you have an able and willing partner, you have time.

[Anonymous]

Here's the related video:

https://youtu.be/M52_wTN6_1A

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.

Same here. I just teach my kid how to clean so win win.

As long as you all are making your boys do the cleaning, your daughters-in-law shouldn’t have this problem. Correct?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.

You're happy not to see your child every day, and not to have your child with you every Christmas and every birthday, just to avoid a few extra loads of laundry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.

Same here. I just teach my kid how to clean so win win.

As long as you all are making your boys do the cleaning, your daughters-in-law shouldn’t have this problem. Correct?

I only have a boy and he has done his laundry, cleaned various rooms in the house, emptied the dishwasher, took out the trash, etc since he was 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.

You're happy not to see your child every day, and not to have your child with you every Christmas and every birthday, just to avoid a few extra loads of laundry?

Let me clarify for you - I said with custody - I have full physical and legal custody. It’s the father I’m happy to be rid of.