Dating app: WWYT of a woman who is looking for friends?
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Anonymous
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So I am separated and didn’t think much about dating again, but my friend is on okcupid and I learned that there is an option to look down”friendship” there.
It would suit me really well because it would take that pressure off (that we are checking each other out), or at least so it seems. But I am not sure if this may be some kind of code- looking for friends... what will people assume about me and what kind of people might be interested? I am open to same sex relationships too but would also like to start as friends.... so I guess my question is- are there people like me, who only choose “friendship” on dating apps? And if yes, why do they do it? Sorry if I don’t make much sense. I am just trying to understand the playing field. |
Anonymous
| No. It's a dating app, not a friendship app. Use Meetup if you want to make friends. |
Anonymous
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Then why does it have a friendship option?!
But yeah I guess you are right. |
Anonymous
| Because it wants to be all things to all people. It's hard enough dating. The friends thing is BS |
Anonymous
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FWB ?? |
Anonymous
| The "friends" option is on there to provide plausible deniability to people who feel ashamed that they're looking for dates online. |
Anonymous
| Guy here. I have plenty of friends. Don’t need any more. |
Anonymous
Yes. Also: women are crappy friends. They expect the special treatment of a girlfriend, but without having to provide sex like a girlfriend. Forget it, I don't need that. Just try asking a female friend for something that is mildly inconvenient for her, and you'll find out how good of a friend she is. |
Anonymous
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OP here, yeah, I googled it and nope nope nope.
TBH I am just very self conscious re: relationships so I wanted this to be the workaround. Looking but not looking sort of thing. |
Anonymous
I tell men the same thing. |
Anonymous
| I'm a lesbian and back when I was on dating apps, I found that it was used by people who wanted to experiment with the same sex but not outright say they were gay or bi. It was also a way to cover their butts if a friend found them on there or whatever. |
Anonymous
Oooh, you're a peach, aintcha? Perhaps you can work on getting a girlfriend to enjoy sex with you rather than to provide sex to you. |
Anonymous
Sorry it got your panties in a bunch that I stated an obvious fact, which is that women will not have sex with you unless you provide something in return. But women who expect you to provide things (resources, time, attention) to them without having to provide sex in return are the worst kind of women. (A great many women like this are called "wives".) |
Anonymous
| I would think a woman who is looking for friends is not interested in exclusivity. Wouldn't automatically assume that she's interested in a friends with benefits type of thing but more so an indicator that she'd prefer not to put all her eggs in one basket and may go out to dinner with Guy A on Friday night and then go to a play with Guy B on Saturday night and then have brunch with Guy C on Monday. |
Anonymous
What? Are you a man or a woman and are you currently finding dates online? It doesn't sound like it. OP, Bumble has a function where you can indicate you are looking for something "casual." However, I will tell you what someone told me when I was in yours shoes ... don't date right now, you need a thick skin to deal with what dating can entail and you are probably very vulnerable and would not attract a quality man. Once you are ready, however, there are PLENTY of guys to go on dates with. Ask me how I know 
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