Extroverts- how to get energy?

[Anonymous]

If you’re extroverted, how do you get energy? I have a 2.5 year old and a 9 month old and I’m bone tired. My kids sleep extremely well (7-7 no wake ups) but when they’re awake I’m ON. As an extrovert I’ve always found energy in being surrounded by others. So for 2.5 years I’ve been the queen bee. I plan play dates, book club, moms night out, bbqs, dinner parties, you name it. I absolutely love being busy and having things to look forward to. I took a step back recently due to multiple illnesses and I felt really depressed. I felt alone. I work full time too (no work friends). No issues with dh either but he’s quieter. All he wants is one date night a week and I make that happen. Somehow the busier I get the better I feel but obviously that makes me more tired.

Is everyone just bone tired? My 9 month old is super clingy currently too and I just kind of feel lost.

[Anonymous]

Your kids sleep well, but do you go to bed at a decent hour? So many of my friends stay up late watching tv and then wonder why they’re tired. We aren’t in college anymore, we need solid sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids sleep well, but do you go to bed at a decent hour? So many of my friends stay up late watching tv and then wonder why they’re tired. We aren’t in college anymore, we need solid sleep.

Op here. I do struggle to sleep but normally get 7-8 hours. 11-7. I can’t seem to sleep earlier and if I try earlier I never get to sleep. I could try melatonin. The newborn wake up period and pregnancy has ruined my night sleep.

[Anonymous]

Good grief. -you sleep 7-8 hours and you’re bone tired? That sounds like heaven to me. I’ve got three kids 5,3,and 1 and someone is always busting my sleep at 1 or 3 am. My mother says that she is getting her revenge through her grandchildren. My life is complete f—-ing chaos but it’s the life I helped create so its on me.

[Anonymous]

If you think your quality of sleep is poor and it’s not allowing you to recharge, you could have a sleep study done. If you have sleep apnea, it could cause you to wake up feeling like you haven’t slept.

If you’re depressed, that can leave you feeling tired all the time. If you treat your depression, you might feel better physically as well as emotionally.

Or you might just need more sleep. I can make it on less sleep for a while, but my magic number is 9 hours. That’s when I wake up feeling refreshed.

[Anonymous]

You're tired because parenting is hard work that never ends. But the only time I felt bone tired, I had a 4-month-old and a vitamin D deficiency.

[Anonymous]

Working out, eating healthy, and SLEEP. You need sleep.

I now take melatonin before bed. It helps put me into a deeper sleep for a longer period of time. Also, unlike pharmaceutical sleep aids, there's no fogginess or hangover.

[Anonymous]

If you work out of the house, it helps with not having to think about child caring as much as if you stay at home. At least I get a few hours thinking about something that is not related to my children. That helps. At work, it gives you another sense of purpose.

[Anonymous]

A few years ago I tried to come up with an estimate for all the coke I've done since college. I came up with 2600-2700 grams, over my adult life. About 5lbs 12ozs.

It's been totally worth it.

[Anonymous]

Drink more coffee! It definitely helps!!